Theme
Dating & Marriage
Attraction, shidduchim, settling, engagement, and building a bayis. 46 shiurim.
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Lech Lecha - You Did Everything I Asked. So Why Do I Feel So Alone?
Sarah gives Hagar to Avraham as a wife. But when Hagar becomes pregnant and begins humiliating Sarah, Sarah turns to Avraham and declares, "Chamasi alecha" — this is your fault! But what did Avraham do wrong? He did exactly what Sarah asked him to do. So why d
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Nitzavim - Are You Dating or Auditioning? Where Real Attraction Comes From
Dating has a strange way of pulling us out of ourselves. Instead of meeting the person across from us, we begin watching ourselves through their eyes: Am I saying the right thing? Do they want me? The Baal HaTurim finds a remez to Elul in the words אֶת לְבָבְ
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Chayei Sarah - Three Fundamental Lessons in Marriage
In this shiur, delivered in Stern, Rav Burg explains the wisdom of the Bracha that Lavan gave to Rivka and why even today that Bracha is given to a Kallah at her Badeken.
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Behaalosecha - Marriage: The Harmony of Polar Opposites
In this shiur, delivered in Ba'er Miriam, Rav Burg explains the inner connection between the Mitzvos of Mila and Kesuba. It is far easier to cut something or someone off than it is to create unity with someone who is your polar opposite.
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Naso - A Lack of Faith, an Abundance of Control
In this shiur, delivered in Ba'er Miriam, Rav Burg explains the connection between the control that a man exerts over a Kohen and bowhow thaythat controlling behavior impacts his marriage. Someone who has deep Emuna is deeply connected to themselves, firmly pl
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Dating and Marriage From A Deep Place of Self
In this shiur, delivered in MMY, Rav Burg explains the definition of marriage, the definition of self and how we date and get married from a deep place of self.
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Vayikra - The Essential Ingredient for Shalom Bayis - Humility
Question - If Rebbe were to give shiur about things to keep in mind and be conscious of when building a home of shalom bayis what would be the number one thing that Rebbe would speak about? What is that one factor that will create a strong home of Shalom Bayis
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Chayei Sarah - A Nose Ring and Two Bracelets - Codependent No More
1. The story of Eliezer finding a shidduch for Yitzchak comprises 67 pesukim in the Torah! Normally the Torah is concise but here Hashem sees fit to tell us the story in great detail. Why? 2. Eliezer gives Rivka a golden nose ring worth half a shekel and two
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Chayei Sarah - The Humble Servant Makes The Shidduch
Eliezer is the ultimate servant of Avraham Avinu and yet despite his exceptional dedication Avraham Avinu does not see fit to make a shidduch with the daughter of Eliezer. Why then does he trust Eliezer to find a shidduch for Yitzchak? If Eliezer is trustworth
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Building a Bayis Neeman B'Yisrael Q&A - The Role of Attraction
I'm always stuck after a date where I don't find the boy to be attractive. He has other qualities that I'm looking for, but attraction isn't there. Any advice?
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Building a Bayis Neeman B'Yisrael Q&A - When Shadchanim tell us to "settle"
Why is it that shadchanim are constantly saying what I’m looking for doesn’t exist? Are there not boys out there who value learning and also understand the responsibility to make a parnassa? What should a girl do when she’s told such a thing? Any Chizuk to kee
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Parshas Chayei Sarah - Love and Marriage
Interestingly, the first time the Torah ever says the word love is in the context of Yitzchak's marriage to Rivka. The Torah never says the word love in the context of Avraham's marriage to Sarah. The Torah does say that Yaakov loved Rachel but that was prior
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Building a Bayis Neeman B'Yisrael Q&A - Not Your Husband's Mashgiach
Question: Rav burg recently discussed The idea that one should not be a mashgiach for their husband. I struggle to find the balance because I married someone that holds himself to a specific standard in yiddishkeit and hashkafa and it’s something that’s top pr
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Building a Bayis Neeman B'Yisrael Q&A - The Little Things
This week's Question - Most of the times I find myself struggling with Shalom Bayis it is with the "little things", when I become frustrated with my husband about disagreement of timing or general miscommunications. I find it hard to remain calm and speak nice
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Building a Bayis Neeman B'Yisrael Q&A - Where is the Line?
This weeks question- Before I got married I would listen to shiurim online and hear Rabbeim tell their talmidim that if their wife wants something then that's it! He should do it for shalom bayis! While I appreciate the strong emphasis that is being placed on
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Building a Bayis Neeman B'Yisrael Q&A - Dividing Responsibilities
Question - I am really struggling with division of responsibility in the house. It feels like I am always doing everything. I've spoken to my husband about it before and he has improved but only for a short period after our conversations. What does Rav Burg re
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Building a Bayis Neeman B'Yisrael Q&A - Asking Again and Again with No Success
This week Question and Answer is anonymously sponsored in zchus of healthy children for Klal Yisrael Question - My husband doesn’t really express his love and feelings for me as much as he feels them, it bothers me because I’m someone that needs to hear it mo
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Building a Bayis Neeman B'Yisrael Q&A - Speaking Lashon Hora to Our Spouses
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Building a Bayis Neeman B'Yisrael Q&A - Making Time to Relax
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Building a Bayis Neeman B'Yisrael Q&A - Setting a Tone for the Family
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Judaism 101 - Shiur #8 - Expecting Revelation
In zchus of a shidduch for חיה בטשבע ציפורה בת מלכה אסתר and אידל תרצה בת לאה For only 18 dollars you can sponsor a shiur, a Q&A, a Dvar Torah or an event. Your small contributions go a long way towards helping us continue to do the great work we are doing at
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Building a Bayis Neeman B'Yisrael Q&A - I Don't Know What I'm Doing
This weeks question - I have heard and learned that the environment of a home comes from the woman. I would like to have a more yiddishe home than I grew up in, but sometimes I struggle to know how to create that without ever having lived in a home like that a
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Judaism 101 - Shiur #6 - Intelligent Design
In zchus of a shidduch for חיה בטשבע ציפורה בת מלכה אסתר and אידל תרצה בת לאה For only 18 dollars you can sponsor a shiur, a Q&A, a Dvar Torah or an event. Your small contributions go a long way towards helping us continue to do the great work we are doing at
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Building a Bayis Neeman B'Yisrael Q&A - Abandoning My Single Friends
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