Dignity in Focus Challenge (Tomer Devorah Awards Dinner) - Rav and Rebbetzin Burg (shiur plus Q&A)

2:06 Amzahit HaTos V'vam Tzaychot There was a nobility, a dignity to the way that he stood and it commanded our attention. And I can say that Amzahit to many, many brachas in my life, there is no doubt that the greatest bracha that Amzahit to is to be married to a woman who is aristocratic in the way that she holds herself. I think that many of you have seen that this year and I think that some of you even made that comment to me recently that there's a certain nobility. Ishaq Shehreh The inner desire, the innermost desire that we have is where our dignity comes from. And so the true Ishik Shere is somebody who is so exceptionally dignified that the husband almost has no choice but to behave in a dignified fashion because the tone of dignity is set in the house. And so I'll speak for a very brief couple of moments.

3:31 I have no doubt that the words that my wife will share will resonate more deeply with you as a result of her true dignity and it's something I know that's a mDs Torah for her and her family is something that she got. Her mother is a very aristocratic woman. Her father Elavmit Ashome, she speaks about, she always tells me that he was a person who always was very mahubadd so It's not just a small thing that she's here with us. It's a very big thing. Just say very briefly one idea of dignity that I wanted to share with you is the idea of dignity and being a naman. To be a naman means to be faithful and trustworthy. And that's no small thing in life. Mei Shabbenu

4:49 Shabbat Shalom Don't tell anyone this. I'm just telling you, right? Somebody trusted you with something and you were not a naman, you were not faithful to holding that secret. What does dignity have to do with being a naman, with being a trustworthy person? So Ruchai Shem Elavit says that Yo Seyfat Zadik was in the house of Eishas Potiphar and of course he had the opportunity to be nishal and doing the Avera. And the truth of the matter is, as we see, that by not doing the Avera, he paid the price. And had Yosef Adzaddi done the Avera it's quite possible that nobody would have ever found out. Neshos Pothifer was a powerful person. Pashtes, he would have gotten away with it. We all know, everyone's familiar with the pashat, that he saw Demus the yokne shalavvav, that he saw the image of his father in the window.

6:04 But the Gemara Insote gives another pashat as well. The Gemara Insote tells us that he looked into the future and he saw that on the Urim Vittu-mim All of the names of the Shwatim would be written there and his name would not be present on the Urim Vittuement. So that's what stopped him from doing the Avera because if he would do the Avera, he would lose his space on the Urim Vittuement. This is a difficult thing to understand. It sounds almost childish. On the one hand, I could do this Avera but on the other hand, I want my name on the Urim Vittuement. That doesn't sound like Yosef HaTzahdik. That doesn't sound like a noble thing that we should aspire to. Sir Hainesh Mlevitz said a very beautiful Pshat. He said, it's not the pshat, it's not the pshat like a childish trade-off. Rather what he was saying was, I am a person of nobility. My brothers are people of nobility. We will one day have our names on the Urim Vittu'mim. And this behavior is beneath me. To behave in such a way is beneath my dignity. So it's, it helped him be faithful in that moment when nobody would have known who he, who he was.

7:39 He said, what's the godless of Rav Reimoshu Weimburger? Why is this tyra so exceptionally vast, why has it reached so many audiences throughout the entire world? Why does he have the capacity to touch the soul in the way that he does? And this Rebbe suggested, and he was a very close friend of Rav Reimburger. He said it's because he acts in his home when nobody's around the same exact way that he acts in public. The same person. He's Tokho Kabarro. As He's a faithful person, He's loyal to His own belief system. That's what we say every morning in Dardan. L'Ou lom ye'he'adam Yerushamayim B'seisir Ubagolli To be a Yerushamayim B'seisir when nobody is looking is because you have a sense of Godly Dignity. This explains the Gemara Gittin. The Gemara Gittin talks about the children of Rishmal Koingadol, a terrible, terrible story that the Romans took captives.

8:28 And the children of Rishmal Koingadol were taken as captives, a son and a daughter. They were separated. They were very, very beautiful children. Rav Shammal's daughter said, Will I be wed to a slave? Is this who I am? I'm the daughter of Rav Shammal. Rav Rishmal Koin Kabbal Sadakah Cohen also had two children, also were put together. And again, not to get into the details, the details of the story are a little bit different. In this case, the son was sort of cross-examining this girl and he said, Where are you from? You're Shalayim. What street do you live in? What courtyard? Etcetera, etcetera, going through all these Simanam until he realized it was his sister. And they cried until they passed away. And again, on this the Pasuch says, Al Ela oni bachia, what prevents two people in Rome,

10:01 Rambam Tanya rebbeim parsha Tov dignity focus challenge G-d-a-b-e-n-u, you can trust in Aaron Akomein. That's what the Gemara says. The Gemara says that if they're a buzz leaf, if they're a person who's not of dignity, if they don't dress appropriately, and certain other characteristics of someone who lacks cover in their life, that's not a person you could trust. That's not a person who can give aid to us, because you don't know what they'll say. We find ourselves in life very uncomfortable at times, because we meet somebody, and in general revealed that there is a lack of safety that exists in the world. We don't know who we are talking to. We don't know what is coming up for ourselves. We don't know the situations we can encounter. And yet when we meet people of dignity, things become very safe. Because we know they are trustworthy.

11:14 When they say something, it's what they perceive to be true. We know that we can trust them. The way that we express our inner inner dignity is through our Levushim. Levushim doesn't mean clothes. Levushim and Chassidic thought means the way we think, the way we speak, the way we act. That's what I love really about the Dif Challenge is that it's not focused on modesty of clothing exclusively. Many of us grow up with a toxic notion of tzneas. We hear the word tzneas. I've seen it before. If a Rebbe gets up, Chassu Shalom says the word tzneas in front of a room full of girls. You see girls physically wince and turn off. It's like you attack them with your words. The word tzneas has become a toxic word, and rightfully so. If people are only talking about snaeus as a button, then they've missed the point.

12:00 To be a modest person means to live with the expression of your inner dignity. That's the way we speak. The way we act. Even the way we think inside of ourselves. Our thoughts can even be dignified thoughts. Alter Abbot in Tanya speaks at length that a person's thoughts are capable of being controlled. In a chanami, sometimes a thought comes up. But a person has the choice to indulge that thought, or to let go of that thought. Undignified thoughts might come in to our head, V'al Terebe says, To push away those thoughts, b'shtayadayim. We have the ability even to think dignified things, that the way that we express ourselves in this world, our levushim, should be in harmony with our dignity. I didn't know that the program ran for four months or so. By the way, Mrs. Trank, that's the math. That's the math. It took me a very... I'm also not good at math, so I was sitting in my head going, February, March, April, May.

12:53 I don't know. Then I started making a gedrom. I don't know when it started. I don't know when it stopped, but it's been four months I can't imagine how long did the challenge last? 30 days to act in a dignified way in 30 days is no small feat Most people I would imagine would have a very hard time with that I heard from Rav Aaron Pessen who lives up the block a very big Tom Ocha who lives right on our block A man is holding a shofzem highscom He said why does it say law a'ilum yehye Adam yerishamayim besei shavagalah Yisrael Eretz Yerushalayim V'seisur V'goli Why does it say L'Oilum Yeh Adam? That you should be a person who fears God publicly and privately. So he answered, L'Oilum Yeh Adam First you have to be a mench. First you have to be a person. Then you could be a Yerushalayim V'seisur V'goli.

13:39 What you girls did is you acted as human beings in a world that increasingly lacks dignity. Jewish daughters are reclaiming dignity. I'm not just giving a plug for the new book that I'm sure everybody's heard of. But yes, we live in a world where dignity needs to be reclaimed. And so, I'll take kalabeh nach haberch hazhedyut. Don't take lightly the brachah of a simple person. The Gemara says, I would just like to bless all of you that in the schus of the dignity that you've shown for the last 30 days, you should be zaicha to a dignified life, dignified children, a dignified husband, and to participate, bez sasham in a dignified community. I'm very grateful to be here. The fixes for hosting and Mrs. Trink for creating this whole challenge and being here. It's been a couple years that I've been at the DIV Challenge and that happens to be that it's my favorite.

14:52 And I always, for the first moment I heard about it, I just, I loved how Tomer Devorah does that when they say dignity and focus. Right, so the word dignity has always been a real favorite of mine. Even in this book it talks about like sneeze PTSD. People don't like that word. It's been something that's been thrown around, it's been something that's been thrown in people's faces, and the word dignity is just a beautiful way of expressing what we're really talking about. I was not expecting or Berg to reference Devorah Awards water, speech, action, all of those things, so I just wanted to share

16:25 a small idea, one of my favorite-, guys know I teach Mesh HaNach, one of my favorite characters in Tanach is Rachely Meno. We'll get to her and get to shem in a couple weeks, but I'm just gonna share some idea that I wanted to...on this idea. Basically we all know what she's famous for, Shabbat Tov Tov Gomorrah

17:46 B'SCHAR TZNUZ TZHAYTAB b'rachha ZACHTA b'yatzami MEHNA SHAOL Yossef HaTzadik

19:17 Snyut Snyu means that I can make space for another person. Snyu means that I have a feeling, I have a need, I have a want, and I can hold back and I can see the perspective, meaning she could see that Leah could be really deeply hurt. And she can see the situation from another person's perspective and say I can make space to allow her into my home. And you know, as I was sharing that the, you know, a woman's home is her domain. That is the ultimate sacrifice. Shabbat Ha-Mishra

20:46 Nech bitah Lakelem He was never looking from Mahut, v'nay Yisrael said we want a melech but you know Mahut in the Gaius world is about pomp and circumstance anybody who saw the coronation which I did not, but it's all about what people are wearing and all the fancy things and that's not what a melech be Israel is What is Mahut in Pilos? What is an actually in Spirov so we know its one of the Midos of Hashem Ma'chut in Kalei Yisrael is to be a reflection of God in this world. Meaning Amalech is not there to be all about himself. He's not there about...everybody should think he's amazing. He's not there when he fights the wars. He's fighting the wars of Hashem. Everything he does, he's reflecting God in this world. He's a messenger of Hashem in this world. He's acting for Hashem. It's actually very interesting because Ma'chut is very connected.

21:45 The Moon is a reflection of the sun. And the moon, anybody who is, you know, Circle Arrow, Spiral Miriam Kazmin, the book that I reference all the time, you know, that's the feminine quality. So we'll talk about, Snoot is not just for women, and we see this in Sha'ul. He was very sun-nua. But it's not, it's about being a reflector, saying, I don't need to be in center stage. It's saying, everything that I do is a reflection of a Kaddush Baruch Hu. And that is actually a very important aspect of tzne putz for ourselves. And again, it is very much spoken about, like, am I acting in this world? Am I behaving? Am I speaking? Am I living in a way that I am representing a kadash Baruch in this world? When somebody sees me, when I interact with somebody, do they see, like this person is an egueh Hashem. This person is representing something much bigger than themselves. That is the mohut of Shalt. And then Shalt, with his tzne ut Eva Sh, gave Is the capacity for Esther to be a Malcha.

22:45 Something very interesting about Esther, we all know she didn't want to be chosen. She did not want to be a Malcha. She was not interested in being achashvos, his palace. One of the very interesting things about Esther is that for 9 years she was told not to tell anybody who she is. She wasn't allowed to tell anybody what her nation is, where she comes from. We don't think about it because the McGillis doesn't seem so long, but 9 years she didn't tell anybody where she was from. I just read this actually in here from Rebbe Nachman Halleir. So what was she talking about for all those years? So we know she had seven servants, you know, every day of the week she named them so she could keep track of Shabbos So Rebbe Nachman Halleir said she said she was talking to them about them. She was asking them about their lives She was asking them about their what's important to them If you can't talk about yourself all the time, then you can talk about other people Hashem T'Chaim T'Chaim T'Chaim She is talking to Hashem, it is you and me.

23:41 And we are going to do this together. She had no interest in being a Malchah. She says Hashem, I am just going to be here because I am your faithful servant and I'm doing your worship, and I'm doing your worship. And I'm going to be here because of what you are. And I'm going to be here because I am your faithful servant. And I'm going to be your worship. And I am going to be your worship. Hashem says, I'm just going to be here because I am your faithful servant and I'm doing your avodah. So the idea that hopefully will expound upon in this class in this evening together is acting, I believe, acting in dignity. It says, I'm here as a servant of Hashem. I am here to express My internal essence. I am here not only about me, I mean I have a job to do, but I can make space for another.

24:34 I can make space for another perspective, I can make space for another way of seeing things. I don't need to be the center of attention. I can ask other people, I can hear what other people have to say. And wherever I go and whatever I do and how I speak and how I think and how I dress should always be a reflection of Hashem in this world. Shabbat Shalom I'm going to pull out my pre-prepared questions. Okay, so what would you say, I just picked the one that I want to hear the answer most, okay? What would you say are the main challenges that stand in a way of one being dignified?

26:02 I don't know if there's one answer to this question, but I think probably the major question The question that many of us are asking ourselves is as society evolves or devolves, so the notion of what dignity looks like can be very difficult to come by. For example, here in Eretz Yisrael, in the founding of the State of Israel, there was a kibbutz culture. The Kibbutz culture ran a very different type of world than the European culture that we descended from. We came from a place where people wore clothing in a way that reflected their dignity. There was something very regal about that type of clothing. I remember when the square chassidim came to Farakweh for Shabbos. Many many years ago the square Rebbe came to Farakweh for Shabbos and was domining in Shayashvim. Thousands of people came to see the Rebbe but all the chassidim from Lushkver came with the square Rebbe to Farakweh for Shabbos.

27:31 And I don't know if you've ever seen the square chassidim but they have boots. Those boots that they have. Enormous, really shiny leather boots, like big, and they were walking through the streets, and I remember, we were newly married, I remember that there was like a majesty to the way that they held themselves on Shabbos. It was like a really dignified type of clothing. There's nothing inherently dignified about one color or another color, about black or The leadership of the world today is so exceptionally undignified that it's not even shocking to us. I don't like speaking about politics and I'm not really speaking about politics. But it matters, not on a policy level, on a global level. It matters when you have a president who speaks in a presidential voice. That's a real thing. There's something called a presidential voice.

29:04 And when the president of the country speaks in a gross way, So on and so forth is a complete lack of dignity. I Remember I remember once my ever got very upset at me On Purim in Yeshiva, so I had a budget that I was given from the Yeshiva and The boys went out and they made the beis medrash into a rock and roll like Hall of Fame theme And so there are a couple of Kanayim and the Yeshiva a couple of like really from guys and they tore down the stuff

30:35 Roshan Roshan Roshan Roshan Matzar Tov Adel Tov Shabbat Tovot Tovot Tovot Tovot

32:05 So then what type of game is that show? You know, if you're in Vamayv Yevon. You know what I'm saying? Like all these crazy shows that are out there today. So there's a lack of dignity in the world and it's very hard for us. We are mushba, like the Ramban speaks about Nuchos Deis, Baruch Vaval HaLav. We're mushba from our surroundings. Society has become a very, very, very coarse, very, very undignified place. There's no doubt that it's crept its way into our community. I'll give you an example of this. Yes, I love this. And I'm saying it even though I don't think that any of you would ever have this but I'm saying it because it needs to be said. When I was growing up, I remember Yecho Benderschweite Rashiv of Dachatorah was my Rashishif when I was in elementary school and he gave a shmooze about playing ball on Shabbos. Goshdark shmooze about playing ball on Shabbos. Even though myself played basketball on Shabbos I would not play basketball on Shabbos.

32:57 And he spoke about that's not a Shabbos-tic activity. Tanya Rebbeim Baruch Hashem Shabbos is the name of Shabbos. There is a person that has shoes and shoes. Now you are wearing a button-down for Shabbos, that's already from them. It's like what happened to the dignity of Shabbos? We were impacted from what was happening outside. It's very hard to even know what dignity looks like. That's the hardest thing. I think Hashem every day. My children are growing up. My wife mentioned that I only sleep in our Mapei Shemesh. I live in Mebeseret. It's also true. The way that a child learns dignity is from their parents. What are their parents doing? Are they behaving in a dignified fashion? And so our responsibility is to remember what was the Missouri of Dignity in our community

34:28 Teshuva Mevah That's what Rebbeim do, right? They say, I'm closing with this 20 minutes later. I remember, I'm saying stories about my wife, I don't think she would want me to say these stories because she's a dignified person, but I barch Hashem I'm not, so I could say these things. And I remember when my wife was working in a company called AIG in New York City. So she had a boss, Pat Riley. Pat Riley is the president of the Miami Heat, but we're talking about a different Pat Riley.

35:59 The Paralle of the President of the Miami Heat is like a very cool person. He was like slicked back here. He was like a real cool guy. The Paralle who was my wife's boss was an actuary. So he was like a nerd. He was like a bow tie. He was the exact opposite of that Paralle. And in AIG, so my wife worked with what was her name? Ning Ding. What was her name? Ning Ding was a... she was a Chinese descent. She was working in an office without Jews. She was the Jewish woman in the office. In a meeting, somebody used a swear word. After the meeting, my wife told me that she came home. She told me that Pat Riley came to her and said, I want you to know that we're going to be calling this person into human resources. I shouldn't speak that way around you.

37:22 Chaz ushem chalim chalim givin to the culture around us and we know what's at the end of that road. What would I explain dignity? I would say it would be like an internal self definition. When you see yourself from an internal place, and as anybody who goes to my class, but all of you know, when your essence is a teleno-okin, when you are a spiritual being in a physical experience, when you know that your essence is your spiritual being, and you define yourself that way, when you act and speak and dress in that way,

38:28 Hatznei allah khadim Hashem lokeh han Hashem I need other people to say I like that, that's amazing, that's great.

40:01 And it's like I'm living off what other people think of me. And in our world, when we're very externally focused, we're living off how other people view us. Or I don't feel good if I post something and people don't respond, that people don't like it. And I don't have enough people who, I don't live in this world, by the way. This is not a world that I, it happens to be that I do have WhatsApp. And my kids, sometimes they'll bake fancy things Shabbos So first of all, it really weakens us because what we're doing is we're giving too many people power over how we feel, right? I'm only okay if after I say something You you tell me that I did a good job Then what if you say I didn't do a good job or what if you don't care what I did or what if you don't show up Right, so then I'm not okay anymore So to be internally focused means I'm okay. No matter what I know my worth is so deep Hasnei El Lachat means whatever I do, I only care of what Hashem thinks.

41:30 When I behave inside my home, when I have an interaction with one of my children, it's very private. And that's what I do. I don't need to show the world what I do and what I cook and what I eat and what I eat, anything, so that you can validate my existence. In the last chapter, I have an interaction with one of my children, and it's very private, and that's what Verghe was saying about Rebbe Weinberger, like his interactions were exactly the same, that's how you could trust him. Because a lot of times you see people who show up a certain way outside and inside their homes show up very differently. And I don't believe in that. I believe the people in our homes are the people who are the most important, and the way we show up for them is the most important. And the only one who is going to know about that is the Chatechgarachu.

42:17 The way we are in our rooms, the way we are with our friends, the way we are with our families. We're talking about the Tzna'alachat, the Emashammel Te'acham. When we externalize everything, when we make ourselves open for what everybody else thinks about us and we're really weakening ourselves, weakening our sense of self, we're weakening I know who I am. I focus internally, I strengthen my core, I strengthen my internal identification with my internal sense of self, with who I am, with my godliness, with my spirituality. So then it doesn't matter what you think. And I don't need to tell you what I, what you think. I don't need to tell you everything I do. I don't need to take pictures of everything Hashem knows what I do and that's all that really matters. Okay, does anyone have any thoughts, ideas, comments, questions? We want this to be interactive.

43:34 If you could define Snyesvam in one sentence, that speaks to you. I think I was trying to say this, I'm trying to think of another sentence that I can think Vangav. But to me, Seneas is a manifestation of our self-identification as a spiritual being. When I know that my internal self is a piece of God, then I manifest that outward in certain ways. So, I mean I don't know if you wanted the sentence or you wanted the elaboration. Tanya Rebbei Mevaseret Chazim Tov The manifestation of that is going to be, I'm going to carry myself in a certain way. No matter where I am. No, no, that's perfect. Another death, that's a perfect answer. I mean, by the way, there's a lot in here, there's a tremendous amount of like beautiful ways of defining that answer.

45:08 We're going to actually take a 30 second break and give a plug for this book. This book has been highly, highly recommended. He's written by a very very special mechanic named Manning. Who not only is one of the heads of blew, but also my teacher and seminary. And we're actually going to hopefully be bringing him to speak to you. So you can hold off in the book if you want until after you hear from him. You could read the book now so you can get the excitement of meeting him in person once he comes. It keeps being referenced so I just wanted to share that with you. I have a question to you. How do you think that from looking inside an outward, do you think that we can kind of, I'm saying, can we use our social media or anything like that in a way that can represent and can inspire others? Or do you think it's hard to kind of realize that?

46:10 Naku please. I'm just going to be honest that I'm not holding in the world of social media. I don't really like the fact that I even have a smart phone. If it worked, I don't know. Maybe I should still get rid of it. Still I am a Baal Bechira, so I probably could still do that. I don't engage in social media at all. I don't know if WhatsApp is considered social media, but... So it's not good for me to answer this question. That's why I'm saying that a word could probably know this. Listen, I know that there's so much Torah out there online. I hear there's a meaningful minute and there's all these podcasts and everybody who listens to a fish's Torah. I hear that's all over the place. There's so much Torah out there. There really is. Tzit's not fair for me to say that it can't be used.

47:08 And we have to know with these things, like, you know, we do live in 2023, and there are many, you know, there's many opportunities, and I think we're being recorded right now, even though that's not my thing at all. But you know, if you have something meaningful to say, and people can hear it, and they can be machazek from the Torah, I listen to Shira, I listen to podcasts, I do, I also gain from them. So I think that if people have something meaningful to say, this is an appropriate outlet that people can hear Torah from all over the world. I've definitely benefited from it in many areas. I'm not saying it's not like black and white. It's not like, okay, you can't use it for anything. Obviously, there's clearly many good things that are being used for. So it's just not something that I'm so into.

47:55 I don't really have time or patience. I don't like it so much and I'm just not saying I want to be engaged with so much. But there's no question that there's a lot of Torah that's being proliferated through mediums. I was really speaking about that aspect of things, that this is, you know, when people just think that they just need to put pictures and let everybody know every single thing they're doing. I don't know. To me, I'm like, what is that about? Exterminalize in that way. I choose to keep things, you know What's meaningful and important is you know within my home within my life within my I always say to the class like I'm speaking to The people in this classroom to me the the relationship is important to me the human interaction is important I Don't know. I you know, that's just that's that's very personal for me and I'm not saying that's the only way I Don't have anything really dead. I think it's a kind of a

49:28 Thank you for the excellent answer. I think there are different ways of using social media. I think Big Hadol, what Mrs. Berg said is 100% true, is an epidemic of loneliness in the world right now. The American government, the CDC, the whole Chavrikadish over there, they issued this thing that 61% of Americans are now lonely. 60, 100. 60, 100. 60, 100. That's a big F. I don't even remember. I'm not good at math, but even I know that. I think I had like 25 kids in my class and we started off with like 45. So you knew the people in your shul, you knew the people in your school, you knew the people in your camp. I'll tell you, we didn't keep up with our friends during the year from camp because how would we have copped up with them? You girls know what a landline is? You know that they used to have cords? Like a phone had a cord on it.

50:54 Ravi velinsky ravi velinsky ravi velinsky ravi velinsky Devorah Awards Not the real thing. You want to talk to a person. You want to sit and be vulnerable face to face with somebody. And so I do believe that social media can be and sometimes is a tremendous tool of light. And again, when we have the opportunity to use it in a way that is a tool of light, so kalakavod. End yet? You know, it's like a car. You don't give a car to a 12-year-old. It's a dangerous thing.

52:27 If a kid has not developed enough of a sense of self, and then you say, well, here's this drug that you could feel good, you get that dopamine in every single time, why would that kid ever go out and be social? So we have this new term called NPC. There's no NPC-is. NPC stands for Non-Playable Character. So that was a real thing after COVID. Kids that came out of school, came back to school, and they didn't talk to other kids in between periods. They're right on their phones and they're just zombies. And kids are referring to these kids as NPCs. They're non-playable characters. They're just there on the side of the video game. You can't actually interact with them. I was talking to a kid today in the sheer, and he's like, yeah, my grade is like ridiculous. My grade in high school was like, there was nobody home.

53:15 Nobody wanted to talk to anybody. Nobody wanted to hang out after school That's what's ges 2022 Shmak in life That's what creates a real sense of connection There's a lack of dignity When we lack connection connection comes from dignity If I'm a person and you're a person so now two people can get together But if I'm not a person because I have no sense of self because I've drawn all my power from the outside and you're not a person because you've done the same how in the world would we ever have the courage to be honest with each other? We learn in life ev from being human with each other. We even learned the bad stuff. One comedian has this great bit. I love this bit. He is like, if you are a little kid and you go over to another little kid and go, you're ugly then you see that kid's face crumble. You go, that does not taste good.

54:34 So of course it could be used for good things. A person could share a shiur, a person could share ideas. You could have, you know, like I find personally Chabad on social media, I find them to be very inspiring. And before Pesach, they were posting pictures of one Chabot, this guy, he's like the Chabad of Montana or something. And he was driving around hours and hours and hours every single day and he was posting his like ways of like two hours to the next destination, three hours. Heybackataches, what's he doing? He's delivering matzahs for Pesach! I thought that was very inspiring. Like here's a nation that stands together. If you're Jew out in the middle of nowhere, we'll come, we'll give you matz confess first and make a lecheim with you. Mee Mee Mee Culture Ask them to act on inspiration. Everyone says I'm a good partner because it's something Shabbat Shalom