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It's a big schlustebier. I want to thank Ms. Foreman who relentlessly pursued making this happen. I don't even know. It was a lot. This wasn't even our first try. This was like our tenth try to make this happen. So I really appreciate it. And I did not know that I was coming to the Weinstein home tonight. Who here are Weinstein's? Just you. So you know we're Mishpacha. Yeah? Yeah. Did you not know that? No. We'll talk about it after. They said to me tonight, they're like, oh it's in the Weinstein home. I said, oh, that's my first cousins. Really? Really? Bavachur Rebbe Zechatzadu Kavrakho An Simchas Toreh would announce, at the very end of Simchas Toreh, he would announce, Vayakov Halachadarko. The Ya'aq of Avinu went on his way. And the Rebbe would explain that every single year is Ya'aq of Avinu. And every single one of us has a way, every single one of us has a path that we're meant to walk.
At the end of Samchas Torah there's a feeling of like we're done. Like it's over. We're done. There's a sense of shlamos. You'll see when you get older it's a very different experience for men than for women. The women at the end of Samchas Torah are done because it's too much yantif. It's too many meals. It's too much of having the children around. Everyone get back to school. But there's also a sense, I imagine many of you had this when you were a kid, you're off for so long. There's like a There is no sense like a shmak, you know. Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, Sukkah, Simchas Tairah. But the Amis is and not to just quote Rejuda all night, but there's a sense of being baderach. He's having his baderach fabrengans in America today, so we can have a little of those iris here. But there's a sense that every one of us is hola chodarkal, every one of us is on our way somewhere.
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The steps of Marchechvan are very awkward and uncomfortable. I have a dear Chavir of mine who is not an observant Jew, but one of my closest friends in the world. We were Chavrooses together many, many years ago. He was brilliant. But for whatever reasons he decided to leave observant Judaism. So I remember when his father passed away, so he came to... It's sort of like a funny thing. He came to pay a shivokol to his brother. His brother lives in Matistorf. And he lives in the Czech Republic with his German wife. But he came to pay a shivokol. So when I got there, so he said to me, he said, you want to go out and get a burger? I was very uncomfortable with this. Like you're supposed to be sitting shivok. But then I realized he's not sitting shivok anyway. So the best way that I could be a friend was to go to get a burger with him.
So we were sitting down, some burger joint in HaChotzvim, and he said to me, you know, this is very, very hard for me. So I thought he meant because his father passed away. He said, I have no rules of how to mourn. There's no structure, meaning when you're not living within the orthobox, there's, it's like you could do anything. And that's not always the safest thing to have. Sometimes there's value in the structure. I know how to show up to things. There's value in the rules. The rules teach you how I'm meant to engage in a particular moment in time. And without the rules of Shivah, he was like, I don't know how to grieve for my father. The halachas of Avelas are very specific. There's no listening to music. You're supposed to talk about the mace. You're supposed to... people are supposed to be quiet.
By the way, that's a good piece of advice. Be quiet when you go to a Shivah house. Don't talk. You're going to say the wrong thing. And people inevitably say, like, terrible things. Rosh Chachter Shleetu, the Roshiv of Wuyu, does not say a word when he goes to a Shabbat. He's silent the entire time. There's value in the rules. It teaches me how to engage. More or less I know what I'm meant to do on Rosh Hashanah. We're supposed to go to Shul, we're supposed to daven, Kiashe Chayfir, it's the beginning of Aser Shemei Teshuva. There's schmoozin around the time of Rosh Hashanah that teaches us how to engage. Asher Yisrael Simei Chuvos, Lichos, I know it's a time of introspection. I'm working on myself Yom Kippur. I'm not supposed to eat. I'm in shul all day. I'm holding in a certain headspace. Post Yom Kippur, I'm already in the mode of building my sukkah and everyone's shopping for their lulav and their esurag and getting everything ready. Sukkah, I understand. I'm shaking the dal aminim. I'm sitting in my sukkah. I'm going on to Yulim with my family. There's a structure to it.
There's even though there's very little structure to Simchas Tyra. It's really big. There's a beautiful hefkaros to the lack of structure of Simchas Tyra. But even within that lack of structure, there's a structure. I'm supposed to be dancing. I'm doing Akaphos. I don't know what happened to Simchas Tyra today that it became Purim. It became this Meshuganah thing where people are drinking in a way that I don't think Chazal intended. Chazal intended but okay b'sedah there's an understandable inyen we're dancing with the Sefertar the shmuzin and now we're in that period of nothingness there's a shmuz I don't Even know if it's true that the word MarCheshvan means a bitter Cheshvan it's bitter because There's no yantif it's probably true that the babylonian term was MarCheshvan and that it's Actually one word so it's a nice shmuz I don't know if it's true but certainly what What is true is there is no yom and tovim, there is no structure.
So Shylia is what is the avaidah now? For serious people. I think all of us are serious people. I think every Jew in the world is a serious person, but anybody who is living in this country is for sure a serious person. You can't be in this country and not be a serious person. The nature of Eretz Yisrael is that it is growth oriented. It's in the water, it's in the air. Somebody recently I was talking to, and we were talking about the Indian of living in Eretz Yisrael, and I said it's just different here. We're raising our children with kedusha. When my daughters go on a date, so the younger children all run and daven by the Kotel while they're on the date. Like if my daughter goes out with her friends, so they're going to Kevirach, they're going to the Kotel. They're not going to Six Flags, they're not going to American Dream Mall, it's different, there's kedusha in the area.
On one of the days of chalamoed, my wife was toast, Baruch Hashem, we have a six month old daughter now, so my wife is very tired just from being up with the baby all night. So we didn't go on the teil, my son-in-law and my daughter took all the younger kids and they went to Gevron, to Marzimah Pella for the day. And the contrast of seeing on people's WhatsApp status is what they were doing in America. I'm not sure I'm saying it's bad, it's wonderful. Six Flags is a wonderful thing, it's great. Everyone should be healthy there. I heard that they had some sort of accident in one of the Six Flags that somebody died on a roller coaster. I never personally understood the whole roller coaster culture. I mean, like, you get off and like, I survived. That's not like a, a chak. Really? It's not for me? I like things at the end where it was like, that was a nice time. Not like, I just, I hung on for dear life. It's not my, not my personal thing.
There's an Indian of kedusha in this country, everybody's here is growth-oriented. For growth-oriented people, Tashayla is what's next? What's the next right step? What's my ve'yakov halach ha-dark, what's the, what's the thing I'm meant to be doing in this dehruch? So we know already that the Pausach calls this month bull. We call it Cheshvan. The name that the Navi gave this month is bull. It says, Ube shana akhas reb yerech bull chaydash ashmini kalah abayis chaldvar vachol mishpatavi vneu shavashanim Speaking about the Beis Hamikdash, Shlaim HaMelch Bilt, that in the 11th year in the month of bull, which was the 8th month, that's when the Beis Hamikdash was completed. Shailin is what does it mean? What's this what's this Loshan of bulls? So there's Yurushalmi, I want to share with you an amazing Yurushalmi in Rosh Hashanah. We'll try to unpack this Yurushalmi to try to understand what's our avayda, befrat and chazvan and maybe bechlal, something to work on this year.
So first the Gemara starts off and it says, Sheym Eischa Doshom Eluberei Shainebi Yerach Ha'esanim The first month is a month called Eisanim, meaning we have Geshavon Tishrei in B'avil was called Eisanim And the Gemara explains what was the uniqueness of the month of Eisanim So the Gemara says, Shabbon Naldu avos meisu avos So what happened? So the avos sakhtayshim were born in Tishrei and they died in Tishrei. Fine. That's what's called the Isanim. And then it says, and it says, okay, and then it says, B'yerech bull sheboh ha'ala nuvav ha'arat sasuyah bullos, bullos bullos sheboh b'olalun lubah So, the Gemara says as follows, what happened in the month of bull, which is Chashvan, so three things happen in the month of bull. The first thing that happens is the leaves wither. They wither. You know, it's autumn. We don't really have that so much here, no?
Who grew up in Connecticut? Anyone here grew up in Connecticut? All five towns? Is everybody, every single person here? In Connecticut, we used to drive through Connecticut. I had family in Connecticut. We used to drive through Connecticut. It's very beautiful foliage in Connecticut. They have a tremendous amount of trees. When you go in the autumn, like all the roads are filled with leaves. They teach you in driver's ed, no? Like it's the most dangerous time of year because the roads are very slick from all the leaves on the floor. So the first thing that happens is the leaves wither. The second thing that happens is that the dust of the earth in The Summer is very dusty, but it's the beginning of the rain and now the earth becomes muddy. There's clods of dirt on the floor. That's the second thing that happens. And then the third thing that happens is they mix the feed for the animals inside of the house.
Those are the three things that happen in the month of Baal. You have to understand that Chazal didn't speak this way. Chazal were not interested in telling us what's happening in the climate. It wasn't like they were just stom giving an indication like you should know in the second month, which is the month of bull, you'll know that it's the second month because these are the things that are happening in the world. There's climate change, the leaves are withering, it's starting to rain, the earth gets muddy, and the last thing is that they go inside their helms and they're mixing food for the animals, they're making the food for the animals inside of their homes. Chazah, we're not interested in speaking that way. One of the unique aspects of Yiddishchit, when you get older, a lot of kids, when they go off the darachat 16 years old, I want to say to them, like, you're leaving right before it gets good.
Because the wisdom of Chazal is unbelievably impressive, and the way that they communicated truth was they communicated truth, not by saying like one plus one equals two, but they shrouded their truth in mystery. If you listen deeply to the stories of Chumish, to the stories of Navi, every word of Tehillim, it's packed with truth, but you have to be psychologically sophisticated enough to understand what they're trying to communicate to you. By the way, Carl Jung, have you heard of Carl Jung? So for those of you that don't know, Carl Jung was one of the original fathers of psychology. Jung said that the best way to communicate truth is through stories. And he said that that's what human beings have been doing for thousands of years. He had a notion of collective consciousness, that every single person was connected to every person. And we tell stories throughout the generations to the degree that those stories become embedded in us.
And we almost recognize the stories as true because we know those stories deeply. And Jung was right. It's something that he didn't have known already for thousands of years. We don't raise our children by saying this is true and this is false. We raise our children on the stories of Chumash. Our children are imbibing truth before they even understand the truth that they're imbibing. But the problem is that for many of us it stays very surface level. It's like all it is is like noach went into a tava. We don't get the richness of trying to understand. And I think that's a lot of what's happening in today's generation. That there's a lot of unpacking of the richness behind every single word of Chazal And every single word of Chumash to try to understand the depth of what was going on What does it mean that Noach had a light inside of the tevoh or maybe it was a window What were Chazal trying to communicate to us with these ideas because these ideas are profound truths That impact the way we lead our lives the altar-eba in jail when the altar-eba was in jail and he was He was being interrogated by one of the interrogators so the interrogator asked the altar abba he said what did it mean that
Hakadosh Baruch Hu asked adamorishon ayaka what did it mean that Hashem said adamorishon where did you go? So the altar abba corrected him and he said it wasn't Hashem asking adamorishon it was Hashem asking us through the vehicle of adamorishon every single one of us has a call of ayaka where are you in the world? That's the way the Baloch Chassidus saw these stories as they understood these stories were profound wisdom for every one of us That's what they were here to communicate. I Want to share with you an idea that I think is really really relevant to every one of us And I think it's being articulated here in this Maimer Chazal Which is how do we develop as human beings? There's an arrogance that we have nobody's fault. I don't mean arrogance like G-i-vuh I mean arrogance like we're born into a world and we just assume We exist as if nothing came before us Every one of us is preverbially born on third base Thousands of years came before us We arrived at this moment because people brought us to this moment In this country in specific there is a certain giva of like we arrive here in 2026 I started coming teritzer sal barch hasha my parents brought me there it's a sal in the 80's I remember what it was like in the 80's It really was a third world country
Today it's not a third world country. We even have cartons of milk. When I made Aliyah it was milk bags. Today most people, I imagine all of you have hot water. Rarely the dud Shemesh breaks you don't have hot water. When I moved to Eretz Yisrael hot water was like a gift. It was like a 50-50 flip. You never knew if you were going to have it or not. Baruch Hashem we've come such a long way but we're built on the shoulders of giants. What people were micer and nefesh to build this country, every one of us has to have unbelievable gratitude. and gratitude to the people who continue to build this country, both spiritually and physically. It's the same thing in our personal lives. A child goes off to camp. A child goes off to camp. That's a very vulnerable moment. When do we go to camp for the first time, sleep away camp?
Summer after fourth grade, summer after fifth grade? Do you ever take a moment and think about the fact that you were nine years old or ten years old? Think about it like a ten-year-old, you know? It's like Sia in 8 weeks. How in the world does that kid have the courage to get on that bus? And that's why it's hard for children. I'll tell you a big aveir I did. I like to share. This is not oversharing. This is a precious story. My mother, when I went to camp summer after 4th grade, I went to camp called Mosheva. Most people look at me they don't think I went to moshevah I Went to Moshevah I was in the Eidah something I don't remember I remember I didn't like the camp at all I remember that we were only allowed to play Soccer because they were preparing us to live in Israel And in Israel they don't play baseball they play soccer so all summer long we played soccer I was miserable I hated soccer I like baseball next summer I went to camp called maganav Why I Made That Switch From Moshe Vadam Maganav is a story by and for itself.
I went to Maganav. My mother couldn't come on visiting day because my mother was going to visit her best friend who lived in Eretz Yisrael. She was going to visit Sharael now, Sarah Katz, who lives in Shiloh. Wonderful family. And she came a week early. I was so sad to see my mother go. She came a week early to visiting day. It took me out for a private visiting day, which by the way was so nice of my parents. And I think my father even came back the next week. Imagine Rachmanus, my father had to, there's very few things in this world that can like have a like a tom of gehenim. But visiting day, sitting to drive five hours to go upstate New York. So they came and they gave me, you girls don't know what this is, you know, there's such thing called postcards.
You know what mail is? You know what stamps are? Have any of you ever mailed a letter in your life? Yes. You're liars. There's no way. Why would you ever mail a letter? Okay, to say there. In my day, they would give us postcards, and we mailed the postcards to our parents. So my mother, they got us, it must have had so much postage, they gave me a postcard to mail to my mother that was going to reach her in Eretz Israel when she was there on her trip. I took the postcards, it's the worst thing I think I ever did to my mother. I was so angry at her for leaving and not taking me home after visiting day. I wrote the nastiest letter in a postcard to my mother. I hate you. I can't believe you didn't take me home from visiting day. And I mailed it. My mother traveled 6,000 miles across the ocean.
She got this postcard. She probably opened it up. She opened up the book. I hate you. I can't believe she said she started crying. How in the world does any kid ever get the guts to go on a bus to be taken care of by strangers to meet people from all across the world? How do you get the capacity to do that? The answer is that when we're children, our identity is outsourced in our parents. And that's appropriate. That's what you're supposed to do. A parent is supposed to be somebody who gifts their child with the eyes to see themselves. Untold that child learns to see themselves, the child learns to see themselves through the eyes of a parent. Which is why the words that come out of our mouth to our children when they're the ages of zero to fill in the blank, they hurt so much or they build so much because the child doesn't know how to see themselves.
So when your kid is driving you crazy because they just did something insanely ridiculous in the house And you understandably are triggered and you lash out of that child You think you're just like relieving the pressure from within yourself that you're so upset at the kids you just said something The child took those words straight to their hearts I'm not going to ask you to raise your hands I'm just going to look and I'll know who knows what I'm talking about You know that feeling when your heart like when your pants got upset at you and your heart physically dropped You know I'm talking about where you like went lower in your body That is the most painful feeling in the world. And you were seven and eight and nine years old when you felt that, right? That's like, it's like a crippling feeling. It's like, if I could put words to that heart dropping, it's like I'm not enough for my parents.
Which is like the craziest thing for a child to believe because of course they are. They just did a silly thing. They dropped all the dishes because there was a bee outside of the sukkah and they were bringing all the dishes in. They were carrying too many dishes at once and they got scared of the bee and Dropped all the dishes and broke all the parents china maybe and it might have been expensive China and their parents were devastated like you just broke all of our china and I was just A little boy not me a person was just a little boy and so like you know and the opposite is Also true there is nothing as precious as a parent who puts their arm around the child And just says like you're awesome and to genuinely believe that your child is awesome is an amazing I'm not even dating this guy when he's like, oh, not you, but I'm saying like he's little.
But you know, for those that are like, you know, one day gonna date him, you imagine like showing up on a date with a guy who's actually present and like genuinely like able to talk about his inner experience and it's like nothing for him. So I asked him, I was like, this is like crazy, like where do you come from? He goes, my parents always told me that I was awesome and they meant it. And then I met his parents and I was like, yeah, like his parents really genuinely believe that he is awesome. The funny thing is he is awesome, but is he awesome because his parents told him that he's awesome or he's awesome because he's actually awesome? I don't know. I'm not sure exactly how to parse that out, but it's certainly true that this kid grew up And he has like a really strong sense of self because he genuinely Learned to see himself through the eyes of his parents. That's an unbelievable gift to give It may be an interesting way, and I think this might be true, and if it resonates with you then great Maybe an interesting way of thinking about Tishrei is what Yerushalmi says that it's the month of our avos and our imahos.
This is the month where our avos were born, it's the month where our avos died, it's the month where our imahos were remembered when they couldn't have children. What does it mean it's the month of our avos and our imahos? It's the first stage of our growth. It's before I know who I am. Can you tell me what I am? And that's a fascinating way of thinking about Rosh Hashanah and Assashime Teshuva and Yom Kippur and the in-between days and Sukkis and Cholamaweyid and some Hastharish Miniatsaras What if instead of just saying it's a time of Yom Yom Tovim, what if this was literally a time where we're being born and our sense of self is being developed because we're being told who we are? We're being told it's Elul Duchuvah because you're preparing to be Mamluch Hashem And Hashem in that moment meets us, the king is in the field and Hashem says, You are a person who can make me a melech. What an unbelievable thing for a child to learn.
I'm someone who could be mam Luch Hakadosh Baruch Hu, that's amazing. And then we say yes, and you're also a person who can handle accountability because you have an inner spark within you that will never be diminished. That's a sarsim echuva. And you will always be worthy of kapara, that's your own kippur. And move into a house with Hakadosh Baruch Hu and build that house for yourself. That's amazing, that's sukkah. And then live there and feel the loving embrace of a father who will never let you go. And then literally, Hoshanar Abba and being able to bring that into every aspect of my life, even those aspects that have no tam and no ra'ach. And so Chas Tyra, where you become so identified with Tyra that you become its legs and you literally can't stop dancing. And then there's a moment after that called Chashvam. And this is the moment where the leaf begins to wither. Because you can't live in your parents' home forever.
I remember when I was a kid, I was having a conversation with my parents where I was going to go to Yeshiva after Yeshiva. You know that minute you're like, Shana'alah of Shana'be, and you're like, what's next? You start talking about what's next with your parents. So there was a Yeshiva in Farakkawe where I grew up. There was a yeshiva that I was considering going to and the yeshiva was today it's a nice yeshiva back then it was a dump Mamish a dump and the yeshiva had a dorm I grew up in that yeshiva the yeshiva had a dumpy dorm and at that point my parents were living in Lawrence Now I don't know if you know Lawrence, New York. Are you familiar with Lawrence? So it's a pretty nice place and We lived in a place called Harborview, which is a pretty nice block I had my own room, a nice bed, a closet, all the things I would need, a desk.
I told my father, the only way I would go to this yeshiva is if you let me dorm. My father goes, you're an idiot, but sure. You want to live in the yeshiva? You want to live with other guys in your room, broken down, nasty, smelly dorm? That's what you want? By all means, I'm happy to pay for it. Why Was I Unable to Go Home? Because at some point if you're able to go home, it's inappropriate. Actually Donald Winnica, who was a very famous therapist, he said, the mark of a great parent is that they've loved the child so much that now the child is able to leave. The best, I don't know why this is the muscle that I have in my head. I really don't know why. And if you judge me for it, that's your stuff. But this is the only muscle that I'm not sure why that makes sense to me. Sometimes I watch cooking videos. Not often, not always, but every once in a while.
And there was a cooking video of how to make chicken thighs. And so it said in a nonstick pan you place it skin side down. But if you turn the chicken too early, the skin gets stuck to the pan. So you have to cook it on a medium to low heat. You have to let it crisp up One of our older friends used to say like, you're never going to leave the Farakaway Peninsula. He said, you literally, you've never left. You never went to sleep away camp. You never left. He's like, if you don't leave now and go to Israel for the year, you're never going to leave. Whatever the whole story he didn't end up going to Israel for the year, Akitzer, he lives
in Farakaway today. He has literally never left. Every time I go back, he tells me he's moving to West Hempstead, which is just five townsmen they're abbanon. Ocean Side is the Baltimore of the five towns. Chew on that one for it. I thought of that last week. That's a deep tira. And he keeps talking about going to West Hempstead. I promise you he's never going to leave. He's never going to West Hempstead. Hashcophically he doesn't belong in Farakwe at all. It's not what he believes in. It's not where his, like, friends are. I don't know what he's doing there, except for the fact he doesn't know how to leave. And it makes sense, because growing up in his home, his home was not a reliable home for him. It was a very unsafe home. And he is home so, he literally can't leave because he didn't get what he needed the chicken they flipped it too soon. The skin is stuck to the pan can't leave after Rosh Hashanah Yom kippurr asashyama echevan the whole nine yards. The leaf is supposed to wither. It's supposed to die. There's a process. That's stage one of what the Gemara tells us. There's a period of death now. There's a period of the life that I had. It needs to die. It needs to. It's an important part of the process.
Because if my identity remains outsourced in my parents, then I never have the ability to insource my own identity. And that is our power. And in fact, I'm going to say it in a very extreme way. It could be that the entire mission of being alive in this world is to learn to insource your own identity. It could be that's the entire thing. Because that's just a really fancy way of saying, coming to terms with the fact that I am a godly soul and my power lies within myself Everything that we have is inside of ourselves hafoch ba hafoch ba de kulaba Everyone who is looking for solutions outside of themselves if I only do this and I only do that It never works because ultimately you have to be able to locate your power source from within So the first step of insourcing your own identity of coming to your own power Of being able to handle anything that life throws at you is to be able to let go of what you were holding on to Which was appropriate at that age at that age the only way that you were going to survive was by outsourcing your own identity. There's no such thing as a child that's born And he just develops his own identity. It's not true. We need attachments trademarked by Yaakov danishevsky
Before that nobody knew what attachment psychology was in the Jewish world. He brought it to us. Right? He said there's such a thing called attachment. A child is born in the eyes of their parents. They can't stay there. Stage 1 is the Leaf Withers Stage 2 This is a very deep title also In the summer months, the earth is hard It's dusty earth There's nothing that's like when the wind blows in the summer it just blows the dust Nothing stays When the process of growth begins and you're You're letting go of your old identity. I'm not just what my parents saw me as, but I'm actually something that's uniquely me. The second stage of that process is it begins to rain and the earth gets muddy. Two things happen when the earth gets muddy. Number one, things start to congeal. Things start to come together.
When you're a child, it's true. You have a strong identity that your parents gave you, but you're a little scattered. You're a little all over the place. The best way I know how to explain this is how many personalities do we try on over the course of our elementary school, middle school, and high school years. You ever do that? You ever like, when you were little, like say something just to see how it feels? Like I remember, this is a skatayani mas garyom, the, I like comedians. I think comedians are great. It used to be there was such a thing called clean comedians. And in high school we would listen to these comedians. When Different Tapes, it's like mp3s but with a thing, and tapes would come out and I would get the new comedy tapes and then I would find myself just naturally talking like those comedians.
So after the Jerry Seinfeld tape came out I was like, what's the deal? And all of a sudden you sound like Jerry Seinfeld. I'm not going to start going through all the comedians, many of them were inappropriate. There was one guy, what was his name? Jeff Foxworthy. He was like, he was like into like, you might be a redneck. He was like a guy from down south He spoke with like a southern twang and he always like made fun of southerners And like the next day in school I was like, you might be a redneck It's like and it's like you socially like you don't know like you were different yesterday. What do you think is gonna happen? No, you just try it on. Like how does it feel to be that person? Everyone develops their own voice over time. It's very scattered in those early years It's it's not pretty when it starts to come together. It's not pretty It's congealed mud, it's not yet the flowering of the spring, but it's the beginning of something, and the ground actually begins to soften.
Not only does it come together, but the seed can actually be planted now. There's an avoda that we have to go through, which is to let go of what was, that's the stage of the leaf withering, and then not to jump to, okay, so now I am. It never works. By the way, people will actually say this. If you listen carefully people will use these words they go I don't know who I am anymore There's like a process you know that kids come to Israel for the year and like maybe they're Inspired by certain things that are different than their home and they don't know where They stand and they'll literally tell you I don't know who I am anymore like I'm not That but I'm also not that so I just I don't even know like where am I there's this very Vulnerable beautiful moment where the seed can actually take hold but it's not yet It's asking yourself, so who am I? Where am I going to be living from? What's the feed in my life?
What's the food that I'm going to be nourishing myself with? Because at some point if all you are is nourishing yourself from your past self, so you're holding on to something That's no longer, it's no longer you and it doesn't last. I was talking to, I don't know if I should say because it was said to me privately Is exceptionally vulnerable and life is exceptionally difficult And I don't mean to say that life is like difficult bad I mean life is just difficult actually difficult is not bad difficult just is Something along the lines of like a guy came to me and he just did 4 years of a computer
Degree in YU and 4 years ago that was actually a smart thing to do Like if you came to somebody and said like what do you want to do? Computers is a up and coming industry and a 4 year degree where I could learn and I could take my computer to the degree seriously I'm going to come out ahead four years later There are no jobs in the computer industry because of AI and he's like he's living with The reality now of now what now what there's no jobs in the market now what how do I fend For myself how do I how do I provide for my family now what that's difficult that's a Difficult thing it's not bad it's a reality he's going to have to be resourceful he's Going to have to learn how to find something within himself that says I'm capable person The song goes out on a date. You know, for guys to go out on a date is not hard. It's not. It's like five minutes of prep time. Maybe. Maybe they showered. Maybe. Hopefully they brushed their teeth. I know what you all go through. Hours. I saw my daughters. This is like a full day event. And how many times am I supposed to have this full day event just to be disappointed again that the guy that they set me up with is socially, completely awkward? And now
Is your parents love coursing through your veins? Of course it is! But there has to be a deep sense of self! The Avoda of Cheshvan In A Certain Way... Is it like a fast machine? No, no, it's fine, it's great! The... It's not fair, it's like an ADHD thing, you know? The avoda of Cheshvan is the avoda of knowing I got everything I needed from elo and tishreh I got everything that I needed I'm okay now to look within myself Vayakov halach adarcha auerderach the first step of auerderach must be So Who Am I? Who am I in this moment? Who Am I? How am I showing up to Jewish history in this moment? That's a profound question to ask ourselves we are living in arguably the most profound Time in Jewish history and we're litigating it which is amazing We're actually having, I mean we're not doing a great job of having the conversation, it's more like a screaming match, but we're actually having some sort of dialogue around what is the value system of Judaism in 2026 as we greet Mashiach.
What's the balance between emunah, embitachon, and ishtadles, and what role is this Shmiraan, that Shmiraan, how do I love Jews that are differently than me? This is all Mashiach conversations, every one of these. It looks to people on the outside that don't know how to, that don't have eyes to see, Because Vesechazana einenu bersuch cholziyam barakam You have to have eyes to see. We daven every single day that Hashem should return our eyes. Mashiach is here. If a person has Mashiach consciousness and they're paying attention so then they understand that all the machleikas that's happening in Qalayyis are right now is terrible but it's also how we're litigating these real issues and there's something that's coming from this. You have to see there's something that's coming. We're about to have an election in this country. There's one issue on the table. It's the craziest thing. We've been at war with Iran and Libya and Syria and like everyone. We've been at war with the entire world. What's the issue?
Who goes to the army and what's that issue about? Should you be in the issue? What's the role of Tyrean and this world? And they're fighting about it. They're screaming about it. Pay attention. Pay attention. The conversation, the messianic conversation is happening right here. We could have it nicer with each other. That would be something to bring with Shiyach. We could talk to each other instead of judging each other. That would be a little messianic. Who are you in this moment? This is the most profound moment in Jewish history. At the end, asmashiach is coming, who are we? How do we show up to this moment? The answer must be that our identity has to be something that's insourced from within ourselves. That we are truly embodied. I'm an'ashama and I'm aware of it. And I'm living with the consciousness of an'ashama in a goth. Present in this world. Actually focused on what's happening. And then that's Hashem. To take the next steps of Nitzotzos.
E.R. Sivan, you know the whole thing to ultimately lead to the Gula, to ultimately lead to the Binyan Beis Amiktosh, which of course we know that the third Beis Amiktosh, the Hanukkah for the third Beis Amiktosh, the Vene'a Soskar brings is going to be in Heshvah. Because once you begin the process of insourcing your own identity, that ultimately culminates in the Hanukkah of the third Beis Amiktosh, which is where we bring our Kaddosh Baruch Hu down to this world. Wishing everyone a Guten Chaidesh and a Gizuntu Vinta.
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