Parshas Vayishlach - Engaging The Modern World

2:29 The truth of the matter is, I heard it from my rebbe also, in different language. My rebbe is the farthest thing from a chassid. My rebbe is Rebbe Yehuda Parnashtlita. Farthest thing in the world from a chassid. But many, many years ago, my rebbe saw that even though I was batolumivutol to him in every single sense of the word, I wasn't makabel his ashkafa. I couldn't handle that, serious litvish, brisker. I loved the learning, but I couldn't handle the. I couldn't handle it. It doesn't matter. I couldn't handle it. So he told me to start learning Tassudas, which was a very strange thing. Most people didn't understand that he was a broad enough person to tell his talmidim to go learn a hashkafa that wasn't necessarily his. But the truth is that I heard from my rabbi the same hashkafa. Our world is divided into three categories. The first category we're all familiar with. That's the category of kedusha.

3:21 What do we mean exactly when we say kedusha? You hear those words a lot. A chaver of mine many years ago A very funny person He was one of these guys that loved to make fun of seminary girls. I'm talking about a yeshiva guy. His whole chayus is if he gets a good seminary girl story, he's going to be six months he's got good jokes. So he came back one summer. He said, I got the greatest seminary girl story for you of all time. He was by the kotel. And he was getting in a cab, and a girl asked him where he was going and if she could split the cab with him. She didn't have a lot of money; she needed to get somewhere in a hurry. He said, "No problem." He sat in the front of the cab. She sat in the back of the cab. She got on the phone. And she was talking to her friend. She said "Like I don't know the girl's name." She was talking to him. She was like, "Sarah, I just came back from the Kotel. I have three words for you: Kedusha."

4:14 And my friend, this was eiling hamba for him. This is the most delicious thing in the world. He had to make a bracha, and he's like kedusha, kedusha, kedusha. He's calling all of his friends, like I'm with this girl. I get this, kedusha. She's like sitting there. She's like stop making fun of me. We use this word kedusha. What does kedusha mean? Kedusha means transparency. Holiness doesn't mean anything. Kedusha means that the Rebbeinu Shalom is seen, is present It's obvious It's clarity. In that object, tefillin has kedusha because it can't be used for anything else other than the mitzvah. Makes sense. So objects of kedusha Not so many in this world. Tefillin, scissors. Most things in this world are not objects of kedusha. That's what makes them so special. Then there's another category. This category is called in Chassidus Shlosh Klios Atmeus. Any girls have heard of Shlosh Klios Atmeus before?

5:07 Girls, we have to start learning Tanya. It's important. Shleish klipos hatmeos means First of all, let's go back to the beginning. What is a klipa? Many of you have heard the word klipa before. Klipa literally means a shell or a rind, like a watermelon shell. So there's fruit inside, but it's inaccessible. You can't really get to it. So when we say that something comes from shleish klipos hatmeos, what do we really mean to say? Thou shall not. That's what it means. For example, if the Torah says, "Don't eat pig." Why does the Torah tell you not to eat pig? Because pig descends in this world where it comes from originally in Shamayim is called Shloish Klipos Atmeus, which means there's godliness in a pig because everything that exists in the world has godliness, otherwise it wouldn't exist. But this godliness is inaccessible So you can't eat pig because it's not going to do anything for you. You're not going to be able to elevate the spark of godliness that's in that pig because it's embedded within Shloish Klipos Atmeus.

6:12 Let's say a person decides that they want to eat pig l'shem shamayim. What would you say? Can you elevate that pig? No. Balatini says you can't elevate that pig. Not only can you not elevate the pig, but let's say you went so far and you actually did it. Let's say you ate the pig. And now 10 minutes later you're using the kaiach that you got from eating that pig. You're using that kaiach in order to serve a kaddish baruch hu. The ma'isa, the chayas of your body is coming from that pig. Have you elevated the spark of Elokoz, that nitzotz of kedusha? The answer is no. Why? Shloish klipos atmeos means it can't be gotten to, inaccessible. And that's also not so many things in our world. Then there's the big category. The big category is called klipas noga. What is klipas noga? Klipas noga is what's called in Chasidus in Erbuvia, an admixture of tov v'ra.

7:08 Malatanya says that this is the secret of the Eitz Hadas. The Eitz Hadas was a mixture of good and evil. Most things in this world come from kripas noga, the sinim bonds. They come from kripas noga, which means there's a spark of a locus that's in Not God. You have to be careful here. If you say it the wrong way, you're a kafir. God is not in the sinim bonds. But there's godliness, meaning the desire that God had for those cinnamon buns to exist, is real and it's alive. It's what makes those cinnamon buns. So why am I allowed to eat a cinnamon bun? The answer is because there's a spark of alokos that's in those cinnamon buns that I have the capacity to be mevarer to clarify. You understand? So those cinnamon buns are neutral, they're parve. They could go either way. So you could do something with those sinemim buns l'shloshim Shamayim And then what you do is you elevate it to kedusha Or alternatively, you could eat the sinemim bun shalay l'shloshim Shamayim And it will descend to shlosh shklipos atmeos. In other words Most of this world is a deep concept.

8:16 Most of this world is undefined And the only question is now, which direction are you going to push it? Which if you think about it very deeply That gives us a tremendous responsibility when we're out and engaging the world, and it means that almost everything in the world that we're going to do is going to move something one way or the other. Which is a tremendous thing. That gives our life meaning. Many of you have heard, I hope, before the concept that your soul has ten sfiros in it. Your soul is made up of ten sfiros. Where do those ten sfiros come from? When Hashem Baruch Hu created the world, He created the world with ten sfiros. Our soul is a microcosm of the entire cosmic creation. Which means that every time we do something, it has a massive impact on the entire cosmos. So far from just living, and we're just sitting here doing, drinking water and eating cinnamon buns We're impacting all of creation. Now let's step back for a second. What's the goal of creation?

9:20 Medrash in Parshas Naso says, 'Maseba Kadosh Baruch Lios Lo Yisbarach Dir B'Tachton.' Because we're doing a lot of learning today, I know it's heavy, but it's Sunday morning. We have to wake up. Some people have their coffee in the morning, others have their chasidus. People wake up in different ways. What does it mean that God desires to have a dwelling place in the world down below? The key word here is tachtona. Hakadosh Baruch Hu does not want us to elevate to Shamayim. What is the proof for that, girls? Hakadosh Baruch Hu wanted us to elevate in Shamayim. We could have just stayed where we were. Before a soul came down into this world, where were we? We're in Shamayim. That wasn't good enough. That wasn't interesting, Hakadosh Baruch Hu. It's not interesting, Hakadosh Baruch Hu, to be perfect because He's perfect. What's interesting, Hakadosh Baruch Hu?

10:15 Can you find perfection in imperfection? Can you build me a dwelling place in the world down below? Rebbe in Yeshiva was just starting off. Asked me How can I make Chassidus relevant to the boys? So I learned many years ago. If you want to explain any concept in Chassidus, all you have to do is translate it into relationship terminology. I'll give you the relationship terminology. Imagine you're dating someone And it's going fine But something is missing. What's missing? You don't know. Something's off. Something like just hasn't clicked. I'll tell you what it is that's not clicking. You haven't been brought into his true self. The challenge of dating is that we all wear masks. We all wear masks every moment of every day. But when you're dating, what do you want to know? Who are you really? That's the challenge. If somebody won't tell you who they really are, then you're not really dating them. You're dating a version of them.

11:14 Which means that after you get married and you find out who they really are, then you go, I didn't know that. So what's the whole goal? The whole goal is I want to see who you really are, which means that in order to really know someone, they have to bring you in not the good parts of themselves. Everyone wants to see that. One girl told me she was dating. She said my avoda in dating is to let my crazy out a little bit at a time. That's nice. Let me crazy out a little bit at a time. She's like at the 14th I say this, by the 15th I say this. I'm like that poor guy. You can tell someone who you really are, which requires tremendous vulnerability. Because you have to tell someone all the parts about yourself and hope that they won't reject you. That's why dating is the great equalizer.

12:01 So Hakadosh Baruch Hu is saying, do you have the courage to bring me in, not into your spiritual lives? That's the obvious part. The question is, will we bring Hakadosh Baruch Hu into our physical lives? That's why Hakadosh Baruch Hu put us down here in this world. In Shamayim, did we really have a kasher with Hakadosh Baruch Hu? At first glance, you would say yes, because your soul was perfectly connected to Hakadosh Baruch Hu. If you had to compare it to something, it would be like a diamond ring in a Tiffany's box in a perfect showcase with the perfect lighting. Amazing. Beautiful. Except it's missing one thing. It's supposed to be on somebody's finger. The finger is not nearly as beautiful as the Tiffany box, but it's where it belongs. So in Shamayim, the soul was perfectly positioned, but it was missing everything. It was missing the essence of what it was made for. It was made to go down into the world. The soul does not understand this. The soul does not enjoy this. The soul would rather be up in Shamayim.

13:02 Why? Because everyone would rather have the perfect marriage than the imperfect marriage. But the imperfect marriage is where relationships actually occur. You don't know how much you love someone until you're loyal to them. Somebody told me over Shabbos about a young couple, Rechman and Sman, who are getting divorced. Today we hear of this more and more. The father, I won't say which one, the boy or the girl, the father of one of the members of this family, this couple that's getting divorced, he's completely broken. Why is he broken? Because the children have an amazing relationship, and they're getting divorced. They don't hate each other. They don't hate each other. How they're out? It's exceptionally civil. Getting divorced, why? It's that we didn't feel like it was working for us anymore. So the father's The shame that you hated each other. So I would understand that I would be behind you 100%. He's like "But you could get married." It's like, "What are you guys doing, getting divorced?" This is the millennial thing. There's no vision of loyalty to the notion of marriage.

14:05 I heard many years ago from Ravmanis Friedman. It's an interesting line. I'm not sure I understand it or agree with it 100%, but it's certainly an interesting one. He says the problem is that today everyone's trying to marry people. So you can't marry a person. You have to marry the concept of marriage, Which is a very deep thing. First, you have to decide if you want to be married. Then it's okay, just a question of who. Why is this meaningful? Because if the person you married is not the person you want them to be, you're still loyal because you want to be married. So there's some greater overarching theme. It's very chasuble. Hashkod Shemarachu sends us down into the world, and He says, 'Will you be loyal to Me?' Not in your spiritual service. Of course, you'll be loyal in your spiritual service. The question is, will you be loyal in your physical service? Will you bring Me into tachtayin? Will you be vulnerable with Me? Will you bring Me into a place that does not have obvious godliness?

14:57 We can't bring Hashkod Shemarachu into shloish klipos atneos, because every relationship exists in boundaries. That's very choshuv to know. Intimacy means exclusivity. Was a basketball player many years ago. His name was Andre Karolinko, A. K.47, played for the Utah Jazz. He was a very good basketball player. He married a Russian supermodel. You know these NBA players. I don't know if you know what it's like to be an NBA player. I do not know what it's like to be an NBA player. But apparently these guys are on the road traveling. And there's women that are throwing themselves at them because they can put a ball in a hole. This is very harsh. They're throwing themselves at them. My father told me he stayed in a hotel once where the San Antonio Spurs were staying during the playoffs. He said, 'You can't imagine. You walk into the lobby and there's hundreds of girls waiting for these NBA players to just walk through. Disgusting.'

15:52 So AK-47 His wife says, "Listen, I want to be in a relationship with you" But intimacy means exclusivity. I want to marry you, but you can't cheat on me. He said, "There, that's impossible." You can't understand what it's like to be an NBA player. So they made a deal. Why do I know about this deal? Because they wrote about this on ESPN many, many, many years ago. The Godless of AK-47. He got a hall pass once a year. Once a year, he was allowed to cheat on his wife. How disgusting that is! So all the boys in yeshiva that year, when it first came out, we were talking about it, and they said, 'I don't know, Rabbi, sounds pretty good.' Once a year. I said, 'Rabbi, said intimacy means exclusivity. Exclusivity doesn't mean 99 percent.' True story. A couple years ago, I was in Los Angeles. A girl comes to me. She says, "I know you do some marriage counseling. Could you please see me and my boyfriend? We're about to be engaged, but we really need help. We can't get engaged as currently constituted."

16:51 I said, "Sure." I sat down with them. What's the problem? Guy says to me, "I don't understand this girl." I'm willing to do everything for this girl. Six and a half days a week. From 11 to 8 on Sundays. I did not want to be married. From eleven to eight, I did not want to be married. I'm looking at shit. What's it? From eleven to eight, football Football season. From eleven o'clock a.m. to eight o'clock p.m. Every single Sunday. Goes, Rabbi. I know how this goes. She's going to say, no, of course you can have your time. Then she's going to come in and she's going to want to talk to me. She's like, I cannot talk to anybody from eleven to eight. I'm locked off. He said, and it's not so bad what I'm saying. Because it's only during football season, which is only a couple months of the year. I'm not talking about baseball season. I'm not talking about the summers. And I'm going to be the perfect husband six and a half days a week. And the whole time the girl is looking at me like he's from outer space.

17:40 So I look at the girl and I'm like, "What's the problem?" She said, 'We can't be married six and a half days a week.' I said, 'Why not? Articulate it. What's the problem?' She's like, "I don't know. It's just I can't be married six and a half days a week." I said, "Well, if you can't articulate it, you can't hold him responsible for not wanting to be married. He wants to be married six and a half days a week." He's like pounding his chest. I'm being honest. All these guys are doing the same thing, but I'm being honest. I'm looking at him like he's a psychopath. So what's the problem? The problem is you can't be married six and a half days a week in Keset HaBayit. Intimacy means exclusivity. Like all relationships, there are boundaries and borders. This is the exclusivity of the relationship. So Hakadosh Baruch Hu says, I don't want you to touch Shloish Klipasat Me'us, and I don't want you involved in that world.

18:27 Say that if the Rebbeinu Shalom tells me that I shall not, I will not. If I make a mistake. The Rebbeinu Shalom says, "I want you to get involved in the world." I want you—here's the key word—to engage the world, not to embrace But to engage. What's the value of engagement? The value of engagement is that when you get involved in the physical world What you need is kavanah. Kavanah determines what our relationship with the physical world is: Are we l'shem shamayim or not? So when we eat a delicious cinnamon bun. Baruch Hashem, I haven't had carbs for a very, very long time. Last night I had a cookie at the aisle, but that's because it's a dvar kaddusha. You have to have a cookie at the aisle. I found out last night that the guy who donates all the cookies for the aisle passed away, and he's buried right next to the place where they have the cookies on purpose. He has that plot of land.

19:24 And he left an endowment in perpetuity. He's going to pay for the cookies until the shiach comes. It's just like an unbelievable story. How many brachos are made because of that guy? All you need is kavanah. All you need is intent. And because of the design of your soul, memela The object moves one way or another. You have to have positive intent. No intent means it descended into shleish kliposat meus. Because in any relationship Focus is what makes the relationship. That's its key. No focus. No relationship. You probably heard this from me before, from somebody, but Weinberger tells the story, and every Reb tells the story. But the couple that comes to him, they're in crisis. They sit down with the Reb and say, "Who wants to go first?" The husband says, "I'll go first." The husband says, "I don't understand what she wants from me. I'm the perfect husband. I take the kids to Little League. I bat them with a million three times a day. I change the light bulbs. I clean down the toilets. I do everything. I'm the most incredible husband. I don't know what she wants from me." The whole time the girl's sitting there, and she's got her arms crossed and she's shaking her head. He goes, "Look, even now, it'll never be enough. It'll never be enough."

20:38 So Weinberger turns to the girl and he says, 'What seems to be the problem?' He seems like he's doing such a good thing. So she says, "I married him not because he changes the light bulbs, because he would be a good little league coach. I married him because of the way that he looked at me under the chuppah, and when's the last time they looked at me that way?" That's the sort of focus. Focus means that when you're doing something, you're engaged in the relationship. You're not just doing; you're being. That's the hardest thing in the world. The hardest thing in the world is to do something with concentration. Because we grow so accustomed to doing these things, it's so hard for us to shift out of that way of being to lead a focused life. If a person doesn't have focus So then we haven't been mivareh the tov from the ra. We haven't been mivareh that mitzvah to the luchos that exists in all things that are mutter.

21:29 Mutter means it has the capacity to be elevated. All we have to do is have intent. So you want to have a cinnamon bun? No problem. A cinnamon bun. I make a bracha. Think to yourself, why am I eating the cinnamon bun? Am I eating it because I'm hungry? Because I just want to satisfy my animalistic desires? Or am I eating the cinnamon bun because this takes me somewhere? The next thing that I do, I'm going to need energy for, and that thing that I'm doing is part of a service of a chalosh bracha. And it only takes the smallest amount of focus. So imagine you're a mother. Being a mother is a mitzvah. You need to have patience to deal with your children. If you don't have a good meal, your blood sugar starts to run low. You're going to run out of patience. You're going to snap at your children. It's a beautiful thing to sit down and have a suha, and of course you make a bracha. But if you think to yourself, 'This is going to help my service l'shem Shamayim,' that's everything.

22:23 That's why there's a minute. Some people have. I don't know if it should be said out loud today. People say it out loud, but it seems a little bit messianic or a little bit not so nice to say it out loud. But there's a thing when people are making food for Shabbos, they say lechavah Shabbos kiddush. Just a small little bit lechavah Shabbos kiddush to say. It's a little bit. It's moved towards kedusha. Everything that we do, we have the opportunity to move it towards kedusha. One of the things that we're seeing in the world today. I hope you girls will raise your children differently. We're seeing that Shabbos clothing isn't Shabbos clothing anymore. A person The hat and either hat, a person dresses in a refined way for Shabbos. A person should look like a mensch. Today it's like A nice pair of khakis and a button-down shirt. It's like school clothes. There was something very special. The Gemara in Shabbos already talks about having clothing that are not weekday clothing. They're different. They're defined.

23:19 Somebody said to me one time. Said you can make fun of Chassidim all you want, but you'll never mistake them for Guy. It's a good line. It's a good line. Shabbos question should look a little bit different. Because the question is, what are you wearing those clothing for? Is it l'shem shamayim or is it your guyva? Person dresses for Shabbos, they elevate. It's a whole different life. All it requires is a little bit of kavanah. Girls, the halachas. If you get a nice new pair of clothing, it's something you're excited about. You make a shachiyana on it. Why are you excited about it? Because you're going to look good. You're excited about it because you're going to serve that kodesh baruch hu with that clothing. You're going to go on a date with that clothing. You're going to be dressed for shabbos and yom tov. You're going to go to chassons with that clothing. All it takes is the smallest amount of kavanah. When Adam Rishon sinned Everything in the world became a giant billboard, a giant confusion.

24:12 Because now klipas noga. Remember, we said that was the secret of the eitz adas. Klipas noga is an admixture of tiferet. Everything. That moment that he ate from the etz ravas, everything became combined. The whole yisoid of Yaakov Avinu is to clarify the nature of this world. That's the yisoid of Yaakov Avinu to engage the world to be mevarer to extract that nitzotz of kedusha and elevate it to kedusha. Really, this was supposed to be Esav's job. And that's why Yaakov loved Esav more than he loved Yaakov Because Esav was meant to go out into the Sudan. The sod is a reference to Gan Eden. Esau was going to be the one that was going to be matakan eched above Marisha. That was his job. Yaakov b'vino was ish tam yosheva halam. If you had to define what categories they belonged to Esau was meant to be in the world of klipas noga. He was going to be in the world of that which was mutter, and Yaakov b'vino was going to be an ish tam yosheva halam. He was the ultimate kaiol guy who was going to be sitting and learning tremendous kedusha. That was their roles together. That mixture of Yaakov and Esau was supposed to be matakan eched above Marisha.

25:21 But Rivka understood because Rivka grew up in the house of Lavan. She understood who Esav really was, and whatever it means, Yitzchok didn't understand who Esav really was. Maybe he did understand. Maybe he didn't understand. But he didn't understand a hundred percent what Esav was Because when Yitzchok saw Esav going out into the fields and he saw him doing whatever he was doing, he understood the danger of going out into the field. He understood that the Esav could be. Could be a murderer. He understood that Esau could go off the derech. That's the danger of going out into the outside world. These things didn't scare Yitzchak because he understood that you don't go out into the world if you closet yourself off. You're never going to have the opportunity to be mivarah those mitzvot of kedusha. That's the chesaron of that mayr shalom life. Mayr shalom life. For sure, they're being mivarah the mitzvotus of whatever it is that they're doing. They're amazing Jews, but they don't have the opportunity to go out into the business world and to be mivarah the kedusha. They don't have the opportunity to make had the sheim Shamayim in that world because they're not out there.

26:15 Our approach Alpi Tanya, Pimai Rebbe It is to go out into the world and not be scared to go out into the world. We don't live with fear. But to be careful Because when a person goes out into the outside world, the reason we don't embrace is because we understand the dangers. You look around today, what's going on? Something wrong with the internet. The internet is klipas noga. It's not shlosh klipas atmeus. But it could easily devolve. Not just easily, it could readily devolve into shlosh klipas atmeus. A lot of the girls don't understand this challenge. It's something that we have to speak to you girls about because the guys are not having a challenge. Today, girls are having a challenge. You also. But if a person goes in to shleish kli pasat neos, that's everything. It means they lost something tremendous. So a person has to be careful how they go out into the outside world. It's kli pasnova, but you can't not pay attention to the dangers. That's what happened to Esav. Esav went out.

27:13 And he embraced rather than engaged. That was the challenge of who Esav was. So Rivka understood that it wasn't for Esav to get the brachos. So she had to make sure that Yaakov didn't get the brachos. What does she do? She dresses him up like Esav. Now an interesting thing Rivka. We know that Yitzchok was blind. So bishlemo we understand that what did Rivka do? She put on him hairy skin. So that he should look like So he should feel like Esau. But we know that Rivka does something else. What else does she do? She dresses Yaakov v'nu up in Esau's clothing. Why? Why does she dress Yaakov v'nu up in Esau's clothing? Yaakov v'nu, Rivka, Yitzchak couldn't see Yaakov. So what's the difference? So these clothing that Esau had, they were very special clothing. Does anybody know where these clothing came from? Midrash tells us these were the clothing that Hakadosh Baruch Hu made for Adam Harishon.

28:12 It's Kastnos Or. That clothing became Ultimately was passed down to Noah Ultimately, it was passed down to Ches, who passed it down to Nimrod. And Esav killed Nimrod on the day that Avram Avinu died and got that clothing. Those were the special begodim that he served his father in. So Rivka took those clothing and she gave those clothing to Avram Avinu. Now this is a deep question. Why would Rivka give those clothing to Yaakov, v'nu. The answer is because she was saying to Yaakov, and by extension to Yitzchak, even though Yitzchak couldn't understand it in that moment. She was saying the role of Esav is no longer Esav's. Now Yaakov, v'nu, is going to have to be the one to be mabbarer Nafkli pas noga ve'etabas. Only Yaakov, not Esav. This began the fight between Yaakov and Esav. The truth of the matter is that the fight was always growing.

29:09 We know that Hashem Baruch Hu's plan was always for Yaakov Avinu to take over for Esau. That was always going to be the plan. That's why Yaakov Avinu's name was Yaakov. Yaakov is from the Lashon of Yud Eikev. The Yud is that spark of kedusha, and the Eikev and the heel of Esau. That's why it's brought down in Apikomala that who was in the heel of Esau, who was the nitzotz of kedusha that was in the heel of Esau, it was none other than Rebekah. And Rebekah, we know when Rebekah became forty years old when Yisroel married Rebekah. Forty years old. The son of Esav, The son of Yaakov Avinu was already tumen there at the age of 40. So Yaakov Avinu had to extract that from Esav. That's why the Gemara tells us that Yaakov Avinu, Shifraya Yaakov, the image of Yaakov Was the same image of Avraham Rishon.

29:56 We don't have time to get into it now. But that's really the deeper part of the story. I'll just say very quickly, that's the deeper part of the story. But Yaakov HaTzaddik, when Yaakov HaTzaddik saw The Demus, the Yerkin Shalavah, when he saw the image of his father in the window, and he was in that Ma'isa Potifar, so he saw the image of Yaakov Avinu. Meaning, who did he really see? He saw the image of Adam Rishon. Which meant that he understood that in that moment, when he was in the house of Potifar, when he was mamish out in the world, there's no greater being out in the world than being in the house of Potifar. So he saw the image of Adam Rishon, and it reminded him that the whole Yisoid of who Yosef Hatadik was to be Mevarech Akli And that's what allowed him to shed those begadim. The same begodim of Yaakov. He needed to shed those begodim and to run naked into the streets, even though he knew he was going to be jailed for it, because he had to be a vare that needs lots of kedusha. He was about to fall in.

30:46 By the way, there are those that say that the k'sinus pasim of Yaakov Hatzadik was the same begodim that Yitzhak gave. In Yaakov was begodim of Esav that came from Adam Harishon. Some say it's the same exact begodim. Of course, he didn't have those begotten by the time he was in the house of Potiphar because his brothers had already taken it and used it to trick Yaakov into thinking that he was killed. It's interesting that it was the same. It was interesting that the concept that he had to shed his begotten. Not for now. So Yaakov Avinu is the same faces of the Rishon, which means that Yaakov Avinu has to be massacring the hate of other Rishon, which means that Yaakov Avinu now has to go out into the outside world. The Melech, what happens as soon as Yaakov Avinu? Gets the bracha. What does he do? He goes to the house of Lavan. What does he do in the house of Lavan?

31:34 Exactly the opposite of everything you would think. He spends 14 years in Yishev Shem Neiver and then he goes out. Why does he? First of all, why does he spend 14 years in Yishev Shem Neiver? I heard an unbelievable part. How come we never see Yishev Shem Neiver in the Torah? Because that's the big Yishev. Everyone there went. It was like the mirror. Wait, when everybody went to Yishev Shem Neiver back in the day? Shem and Eber is from a version of Lo ba Shamayim, Shamayim Shem, Vloy me Eber la Yam. It wasn't a Torah of this world. Yaakov knew before he went out into this world; he was in yeshiva, away from everything, closeted off. That's the value of being in yeshiva, girls. That's the value of marrying someone who's in yeshiva. That's the value of raising children that go to yeshiva. There's value in keeping them away so that when they're ready to engage, they're prepared for it.

32:27 Not to keep them out of the world forever, but to prepare them for it. That's the insight of what a yeshiva is. But then Yaakov Yenua goes and he does something that's mamish. Look at Derech Hatava. He goes and he gets involved with sheep. What was Yaakov Yenua dreaming about when he left the yeshiva Shem Be'ever? His big fancy dreams of malachim oiling the yard at night. What does he dream about after he's working for Lava? Dreams about sheep. My God, a person goes out into the world. It's not true, by the way. It's a bad joke. That joke, because if you know the secret of those sheep, that's the secret of the Akudim and the Nikudim. That's really from the Olimatov From the beginning of creation. It's an unbelievable secret. They don't fill it. It was the most spiritual dream of all. So Yaakovina goes to the house of Lavan, and what does he do? He learns the art of engaging in the world.

33:20 He learns the art of im Lavan garati v'tayet mitzvah shemati, how to go out into the world. And to be mivara those mitzvot of kedusha, and nobody was a bigger rasha than Lavan So it was the perfect opportunity to do so. I saw once an unbelievable marshal from R' Matzio Salman. Does anyone know who R' Matzio Salman is? Great mashgiach of Lakewood Yeshiva. Matzio Salman said the following marshal. He said, "Imagine it was a person who loses everything." He's mamish Poor. Not poor like if you're in the Jewish community. Poor if you're in the Jewish community, he still has a house. He still has a car. The Jewish community gets carried. I am talking about poor, like the guy sleeping on a park bench. He's crying to Hakadosh Baruch Hu. He says to Him, "I don't even have a negel vasir to serve you." I don't even have a nitiel se'adayim cup. I have nothing to serve you with.

34:12 I am asking you, please Please just give me a negel vasir, so I can wake up in the morning and go over to that fountain in the middle of the park and wash my hands, wash my nitiel se'adayim in the morning. And he falls asleep on the bench crying. He wakes up the next morning, and what's next to him? One of those cheap plastic nagelvasers. A nice nagel. He goes over to the fountain. Pours himself a cup of water. Please come. No. He starts washing nagelvaser But this nagelvaser is like a nagelvaser that shakes. It shakes the whole Shamayim, like the bracha that he made wasn't so much kavanah. Because he has a miraculous nagelvaser cup. After that bracha in Shamayim, everything, everyone, all the malachim are going crazy. Azab bracha. We have to be. We have to give this guy all the shefa bracha in the world.

35:02 That day, he met an old acquaintance, and the acquaintance gave him a job, and so now he was able to rent an apartment. He excelled at the job, and before long, he was a VP, and he was able to buy a house, and then he became the CEO, and all of a sudden, he's moving into a mansion. And the guy is posh rich, hundreds of millions of dollars in a very short amount of time. The movers come. But also, when I move I'm not so rich, so I have to pack my own house. Which means I have to go to Yeshiva Shafah and get those decrepit boxes that the pigeons have been living in and move all of our stuff. We have to sit there and pack. We moved many, many times when I was younger. Today, Baruch Hashem, we own a house in Eretz Yisrael. I told my wife when we bought our house, 'This is not a house. This is a coffin. I'm never moving again.' This is where. And today there's so much stuff. My kids have so much stuff. The house would be full of boxes. We'd have to have four moving vans in order to move.

35:52 So they're moving. How does a rich person move? You hire people to move for you. I don't know if you know this, but people will come and they will pack up your house. They throw your stuff in boxes and they tape it up. The whole thing is like just a couple more hours, and for a couple thousand dollars you don't have to pack. I never had a couple thousand dollars extra, so I didn't pack myself. This guy is a wealthy man now, so he just hires someone to pack for him. Pack for him. And then they go to this new mansion. They're unpacking everything because they'll unpack for you also. They're unpacking everything, and the movers are about to leave. The guy realizes, wait, where's the plastic Nagelbaster? He's running around this new mansion, beautiful house. He's running around looking like crazy. Where'd my Nagelbaster go? Where'd my Nagelbaster go? The movers are looking at him like he's a moshurah. A Nagelbaster costs a buck fifty in variety. Like we were talking about. Why would you go crazy over a tiny little Nagelbaster? He says to the movers, "You have to, we have to go back right now." They go to the old house. They're tearing apart the old house. Finally, he finds it in a closet. He finds that nail baster, and he's crying tears of joy.

36:51 Movers are looking at him. What's wrong with this guy? As a multi-billionaire, just bought a ten million dollar mansion, he's going crazy over a dollar fifty nail baster. What's the pshat? Because this guy knows the nail baster is not a nail baster. He knows that's the nail baster that started it all. He remembers the tears flowing down his cheeks as he's sitting on that park bench in Central Park, begging their banishel just to have a nail baster to serve him. That's the way Yaakov Avinu saw every single thing in this world. That's Godless. Godless is that even the smallest things can be part of your relationship with Hakadosh Baruch Hu. So when Yaakov Avinu crossed the river, and what was he missing? He was missing his pachem ketanim. He said, "You can't just throw them out." You can't just leave them as if they're not important. This is what I was created for. You don't just leave points on the board.

37:39 Tell you a quick masech. My wife was the captain of Shadach basketball. Shadach used to have a basketball team, and my wife was the captain of Shadach basketball. The big joke always was that she was better than me at basketball. And it wasn't a joke. They played ska. Maybe girls won that game. They played Ska during the regular season. One of the girls in my wife's team was wearing the number zero on her jersey. Not allowed to have a number zero on your. You got a doubles zero, but you can't have a zero. So the coach of SKA picked this up, but didn't say anything because it's a technical foul, and you get free throws. If what's going to be a technical foul, you get free throws if you point it out. So the coach put it away in the back of her mind because she knew that the chances were that SKA was going to play Shabak back in the championships.

38:27 It's time for the championship. Jump ball, they throw it up for the tip off. And all of a sudden the coach goes, "Hey, that girl's wearing a zero." Technical fail. My wife said they never recovered. They got blown out in the championship. Shifted the whole momentum. You don't leave points on the board. You have the opportunity called gamesmanship in sports. You have the opportunity to have any point. Thirty more seconds. You got to have it. It's the same thing when it comes to our world. You can't leave points on the board. You can't just walk around and go like, "Hey, I have water. I'm not going to make a bracha. I already made a bracha." You can't leave points on the board. See, Akivina goes back to Pachem Katanu. That's why Yaakov Avinu asks the Malach his name. Why? Because what was the Malach of Eisav's name? His name was Samuel. Sam Kel. Where does Samuel get his chayus from? Where does he get his life force from? From the Aleph and the Lamed.

39:19 Vase lovo The satan the Malach Amavas, the satan of Eisav. Samuel is going to be sheched. He's going to be killed. The Shlosh says he's going to be killed. Aleph and the Lamed are going to be removed from his name. The chayus of the Lukus is going to be removed. So the Melech Yaakov Minoo was wrestling with the Malach of Esav, and what does he say to him? He says, "What's your name? Did I win? Did I bring Mashiach? The sun was shining now. He said, "I think I brought Mashiach. I was mevarah that last little bit. I was mevarah the nitzotz of Esav. So he thought that he brought Mashiach. So the Malach said, 'Lamazatisho l'shmei. We're not up to that. It's going to take thousands of years to get to the deepest depths of being mevarah all of those nitzotzos.' That's why Yaakov Avinu says to Esau when he meets him, "Mimlovan garti, mitayim mitses shemarti." He's saying, 'You can't beat me. There's nothing. You can't touch me.'

40:08 What were these pachim ketanim? Everybody knows the pachim ketanim were the same pachim ketanim from the story of Hanukkah. Same nes that happened on Hanukkah. That jug of oil, that same jug of oil from the times of Yaakov Avinu. Same pach. Same pach shemen. Why? What I'm going to say now should not be controversial at all. It should be pashachim. For some people, it's controversial. I don't know why. What's the role of secular wisdom in this world? What's the role of secular wisdom? We have the greatest spheros are chachmah bina and das are chabad. The person doesn't use their mind. L'shem shamayim. That's a terrible avodah. But what's worse is to corrupt your mind. There are things the halacha says we're not allowed to learn. Secular wisdom we are allowed to learn. It's klipas noda. So all you have to do is learn secular wisdom l'shem shamayim, and then you could elevate secular wisdom to kedusha.

41:14 So what should you do? Balatanya says very clearly: either you should be learning secular wisdom for the sake of making a parnasa Which is something very choshev. Everyone has to make a parnasa, especially today. Both parents are working. Someone has to make a parnasa, so a person should go to college so that they could learn how to make a parnasa. That's the role of secular education. Or alternatively, like the Rambam says, a person learning secular wisdom. Why? Because this will help them get closer to Hakadosh Baruch Hu. If you're learning l'shem Shamayim, that will help you get closer to Hakadosh Baruch Hu. Last night in the five towns, I gave a shiur on the luzzma. So one of the girls One of the girls who was there, she's doing something in biology. I forget exactly what it was, and she said, "I know exactly where the Lulzbon is." And we're discussing it because she learned it. She learned what the Lulzbon was, so it helped her.

42:04 These are the reasons that we should be learning L'shem Shamayim. Shemen and Chasidus is a reference to Chachma. Chachma is the highest point within ourselves. That's why Apikabala, we know that we all descended from Hakadosh Baruch Hu's Chachma Eila, from the highest point of Hakadosh Baruch Hu's Chachma. Every single Jew descends from that place. Even the lowest level Jew, which is why we're all infinitely connected to our Kadosh Baruch Hu. So if a person uses their chachma chas v'shalom inappropriately, learning things that they shouldn't learn from professors that they shouldn't be learning from, because those professors are not teaching things l'shem Shamayim. What I mean to say is they're teaching things that are easier to learn. So then you're corrupting your chachma, your bina, and your das. But if you're going to learn true wisdom, true secular wisdom, meaning nachfira, biology, and history, and English and literature, and all those things. You're going to do it for the sake of getting closer to Hakadosh Baruch Hu. That's an amazing thing. That's elevating to the place of kedusha.

42:59 So Yaakov Vina goes back to these pachim ketanim, the shem and the thing of these pachim ketanim. What is it? It's the shem of chachma. That's why on Chanukah, what was the whole fight? The whole fight was between the Yevonim. Their secular wisdom, and our Jewish wisdom. So everyone was, everyone in those days became nasiyavim. They started getting into Greek philosophy. What did it mean to get into Greek philosophy? It meant that these people They weren't learning L'shem Shamayim. There was nothing wrong with learning science and math. But they had to get rid of the Eibusher in order to do it. They had to remove Hakadosh Baruch Hu. That was the problem. Again, we don't have time to build up a whole thing on Chanukah right now, but when you go into the story of Chanukah, you'll see that was the whole Yisodeh. Just where we're learning the highest point. This water bottle is klipas noga. Your mind is klipas noga.

43:46 You have the opportunity to use your mind L'shem Kedusha. Chas v'Shalom descends into Shalish Kupis at Me'os. I'll finish with this little bit of a pinch. The Arizal says that Yaakov Avinu in the fight with Esav He was hit. In fact, the Mal of Esav was hidden to get an Asha, the Makam Halada, which means that this was going to be the fight for generations to come. The Arizal says specifically the get an Asha represents Taimchei Taira Those that support Taira, those that are willing to give money to yeshivas. And to kollel and to people that are learning, so they can continue to do their holy work. To publish Sfarim. That's my pitch. To publish Sfarim, is that no? To give alik a mitzvah to help. Why specifically time chaytayra? Why not tayra? Because tayra is kedusha. Time chaytayra, the money That's klipas noga. What are we going to do with our money?

44:43 Are we going to elevate our money? Are we going to use our money l'shem shamayim? This is a perfect example. It's a beautiful house. Beautiful chandeliers, beautiful table, beautiful food. And what are we sitting and doing on a Sunday morning? We're making this table into a darshavik dusha. We're making these chairs into a darshavik dusha. We're eating the food, the shem shamayim. Everything that we do, we're not afraid. We're not afraid to engage the outside world. We understand that there's shlishi klipas tameios out there that we don't want to bring into our lives. But the time chaytayr. What are we going to use it for? Are we going to use our homes to support Tyrant? What are going to be the things on our walls? What are going to be the books that we have on our shelves? What's the Avirah of the music in the home? That's a big one. In my house, Baruch Hashem, I have very musical daughters. They love to sing. My daughters have beautiful voices.

45:36 Every Shabbos in my house is a manusha party. They put on all this music. Especially now, we have a man in yeshiva who's a famous singer. His name is David Perlman. So now my daughters all want to hear David Prom's music. David Prom is blasting from the speakers at our Shabbos, and everybody's cleaning, and it's lovely, and they're singing beautiful songs. I just learned a new one on Shabbos in the five times. Thank you Hashem. I never heard of this song. But what a beautiful song! People going around singing. Amazing. What type of music do we listen to? Do we listen to the music of Shleish Chleipos Atmeiros? Do we use the music to elevate our homes? Yaakov vino became Yisrael. We're called yisraelim. Yakov ben became Yisrael, why? Kesarisa Elokim v'Tu'cha Because he fought with God and he was successful. He was victorious. But the name shouldn't be Yisrael then. It should be. We should call Tu'cha then.

46:28 Why? Because L'mayse girls are meant to struggle. This is the struggle. The struggle is what will be our position in this world. Will we be L'shem Shamayim? Will we extend Shlosh Kli Pesach Meas? All it takes is a little tiny bit of kavanah to change your entire day. That's the secret of Ma'ida Ani. A person wakes up in the morning. The first word they say is Ma'ida. The second word they say is Ani. The first thing has to be. Have a wonderful day. Be excited and ambitious and attack the master sleep. Be able to order new texts of kedusha. The kli pasnover Hashem Shamayim.