Re’eh: The Life You Don’t Know You’re Choosing

2:38 You ever notice that if you do something for a long enough time, you start to identify with it and you're like, that's me. This is what I do. It's not true. Just because you've done something with extraordinary consistency does not mean that that's who you are. Every one of us has the option to opt out of a behavior that we do in our lives. We just think that we can't because we've done it so many times. But fundamentally, you should know that's not true. How do we begin to shift this pattern? The pattern begins with I'm making choices that I'm not consciously aware that I'm making. I want to give you an example of this. I've used this example many times in the past. It's the best example I know of. When I was a little kid and I came home after school, I'm talking about very little. You know what I did? I would walk in the house, and the first thing I would do is go over to the snacks closet and look to see what snacks my parents had in the closet. We moved houses; my parents had a new snack closet. You know what I unconsciously started to do when we moved into our new house? I came home from school.

3:48 And I acclimated myself to going to the new snack closet. I got married. I would come with my own children to my parents' house. The first thing when I walked in, I would go to the snack closet. My parents moved to Israel. I was still living in America. I would go to visit. You know what I would do when I first walked into the house? I'd go to their snack closet. I'm now a grandfather of three and a father of seven. And Arayo Mase, you know what I do when I walk into my parents' house? I go to the snack closet. And my mother always says the same thing to me. She goes, "What are you looking for?" And I always say the same thing to her: "Love." No, it's not true. I say I'm like, I mean that's the reality. That's not the joke. But I tell my mother every time. Mom, if I knew what I was looking for, I wouldn't be browsing. But I come. It's a pattern at this point. It's so natural you don't even realize that it's happening.

4:47 How do we break the cycle? We have to become consciously aware of what's actually happening inside of our world. If you're not aware of what's happening inside of your world, Shalom aleichem, Rebbe. I want you to know I would never do this. The only reason that all of us are sitting here today is because when I was, and this is not an exaggeration, when I was 12 and 13 years old, I learned with Reb Rosner in Yeshiva Farakway. How many years ago is it? Nineteen ninety-two, ninety-three. Neither of us had beards back then. It's a tremendous thing that we're here in this moment today. If I say anything wrong, please call me out. I feel that way very much in the opposite direction. The first step to growth is the ability to actually pay attention to what's happening in your life. So yes, twice a day, every single day, we close our eyes to understand the unity that's underneath the fragmentation. But there are times when a yid has to open his eyes to be able to say, 'Look at the thing that I'm doing,' and to be able to say, 'It's not working. This thing that I'm doing, it's not working for me anymore.'

6:01 And this is what Rashi says. Rashi says, 'Rei anoichi.' What does Rashi say? 'Ha'amurois b'har griesum b'har eva.' What's the pshat? We have here a very interesting phenomenon. Usually, a rebbe gives a mussar shmuus; he doesn't have to bring along visual aids. Like when you do your master's degree in special education, they always talk to you about you have to visualize it, you have to be able to show it to the kids. Not every kid is able to be an abstract thinker. Some of us need to see it. The emes is it's a very profound idea that Rashi's bringing for us. It's not that Moshe Rabbeinu is conveying an idea that there's a notion of bracha and klala in your life. He's not teaching you an abstract theology. He's telling you it's something that you literally have to be able to see in your life. This choice takes me to this place. There's a line from my good friend Rav Gav Friedman that he says very often, which I love. He says, "Don't be surprised if life turns out exactly the way you live it." As people always wonder, how did I get to this destination?

7:07 You know what the answer is. You made a right. You made a left. You drove in that direction, and that's how you got there. How many of us, at various points in our life, turn around and go, "I don't know how I got here." Of course, you don't know how you got here for two reasons. Number one, you never realized that you were making choices to begin with, because you weren't. Your eyes weren't open. You weren't consciously aware that you were moving from point A to point B. And number two, you didn't. You weren't able to see. Roas anolad. If I make this choice, it takes me to this place. I remember many years ago I had a conversation with my roommate. We were closest to friends. We remain closest to friends. Wonderful guy. And we were making a decision about whether to stay in Eretz Yisrael for a second year or not to stay in Eretz Yisrael for a second year. And I was choosing to stay, and he was choosing to leave. And I said, I'm just curious. What's going to be with your learning when you leave yeshiva? So I remember. Clear as day, he said to me. He goes, "I'm going to set up a chavrusa. I'm going to this. I'm going to that." And I said to him, "You know that it never works." He's like, "No, I'm going to do it."

8:10 Of course, it didn't work. Chavala didn't work. Baruch Hashem, he's a great guy. He's learning today, and he's awesome. He's amazing. But you have to be smart enough to know this choice takes you here. It's very rare for people to be. Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule. But you have to be smart enough to know if I continuously do this thing, I'm going to end up. And I got to label it. I got to say that's where I'm headed. Don't be surprised if life turns out exactly the way you live it. Another mussar from this pasuk. It starts off rei. Rei is of course singular. Lefnechem. What's lefnechem? All the bale mussar asked the kasha. What's the pshat? What's the pshat that it starts off singular and it turns into plural? There's another piece here that we have to speak about. Most of us don't realize that what starts off as an individual choice—this is for you, Razi—becomes a culture. When enough people start to make a certain individualized choice over a long enough time, you build a culture. Part of what we don't realize is that we're so stuck in the culture that we grow up in. We're so stuck in the hamster wheel.

9:27 But everybody does this. Everybody does this. That you don't realize that you're just kind of going along, and the crowd is taking you, and your feet barely touch the ground because you never actually stopped long enough to ask yourself, 'Wait a second, is this hamster wheel that I'm on actually taking me to the place that I want to go?' It's not only that we're not making conscious choices within our own individual lives. Can we step out and actually evaluate? Not chas v'shalom to leave our community. I'm not saying that at all. But can we stop for a second and say, Are we as a community heading somewhere where we want to go? Is this taking me where I want to go? That's how change happens. Change happens at the micro level, but it impacts the macro level because when enough people stop just doing the thing that everybody else is doing and start taking ownership over their lives, that's how we make communal changes. Slowly, maybe it takes 20 years, 40 years, 60 years.

10:29 We're in it for the long haul. We don't need dramatic change. Nobody here is looking for unhealthy dramatic change. But to be able to say, Wait a second, Maybe I got here not because of my own unconscious choices. Maybe I got here because all of us together were making some of these unconscious choices. And I don't want to be a part of that anymore. I want to take ownership over my life. And sometimes that means stepping back. Not again to be absolutely clear. Not Chassar Shalom stepping back from your families. Not Chassar Shalom stepping back from your communities. Just stepping back in a general sense and asking, Is this train headed in the direction that I want to go, or am I going to be a part of a process that perhaps brings the train in a new direction? That's how leadership is created. Full transparency. I didn't ask him permission. You can see that I'm looking at Razi. But I want you to know. Razi and I, Baruch Hashem, know each other a long time already. Should know he's an exceptionally growth-oriented person. Very big inspiration to me. So he says, Rebbe, like it's sometimes hard.

11:31 I'm having a conversation with somebody and they don't even realize the hamster wheel that they're in. How can I possibly tell them they're in a hamster wheel? It's very hard to tell people you're in a hamster wheel because they're so caught up in the hamster wheel that when you try to tell them, do you realize you're part of a larger system? Half the time they don't even know that they're in it. And all of us have an obligation. To be consciously aware of what's happening in our lives—that's what a growth-oriented Jew does. A growth-oriented Jew is paying attention to what's actually happening in his lives. Because if you don't actively pay attention to the fact that there's a bracha and a klala in front of you. This is what happens: the haklala. So what's going to happen? What happens is as follows. Rashi says this clearly. A person who's over the Zara, Rashi says he's sarmi kol aderach. He's left the entire derech.

12:38 It's an interesting thing Rashi's saying. Rashi's not telling you there is a concept of off the derech. What does off the derech mean? So Rashi says, when you're really off the derech, avoid the zara. I think Rashi's telling us something more profound than just avoid the zara is the thing that takes you off the derech. I think Rashi's saying is as follows: There's going to be a center of all of our lives. The way it was described to me many years ago by a therapist in Beit Shemesh that I was talking to. Brilliant therapist. She said she had a table that she used to have her clients sit at this table. The table was like a tree, an actual tree, and the rings of the table. There was a piece of glass on top of it. You could see the rings of the table. She was telling the group. She said she used this table when she was with her clients to be able to visualize a muscle. What's the thing at the center ring of your table?

13:41 What's because every everybody in our life has a center ring, something that our entire life is oriented towards, and it's the one thing that all of life flows from. And so she said, ask yourself, what's at the center of your life? And she would sit with her clients, and she would say like this: she would say to wives, "What's at the center of your life?" And inevitably, people will put different things at the center of their life. People will put their job at the center of their life. People will put their spouse at the center of their life. People will put their children at the center of their life. But everybody has a center. And to think that you don't have a center, everybody has a center, and it's a simple thing. You're either going to put truth at the center of your life or falsehood. You're either going to put God at the center of your life or you're going to put Avodah Zarah. But you should know, at the end of the day, every one of us has a basic decision to make. And that decision—it's a very simple decision. The decision is: if Hakadosh Baruch Hu is at the center of our lives, then everything that flows from that one basic decision—the way we're married

14:42 The way we're parents, the way we conduct ourselves in business, the way we conduct ourselves in our community, the way we conduct ourselves in the privacy of our own rooms when nobody else is watching—it changes radically when God is at the center of your life. I was once talking to a guy. He's been in a twelve-step program for I don't know. At this point, it's got to be at least fifteen years. And the guy—he's one of the most spiritual people I've ever met in my entire life. And this guy said to me: I have to, if necessary. He said, "I would have to go to a place where there's no minion for Shabbos, where I'm not going to hear Kriyas Hatorah." He said, "If necessary, I would have to go to such a place to make sure that I have a meeting on Shabbos. Because if I miss a meeting, my entire life is going to fall apart." So at first, when he said it, I was a little bothered by that. I didn't understand what he was saying. And he explained it to me. He said it's very simple. He goes, "I cannot be a father if I'm not sober."

15:44 I can't be a husband if I'm not sober. I can't have a job if I'm not sober. Sobriety has to be at the center of my life. I finally chapped it. It took me a little bit of time to chape it. I finally chapped it that the word he was using for sobriety, I call that truth. I call that Hashem. It's the same fundamental concept. If I'm aligned to my highest value, everything flows from that. But you should know, every one of us has something that we put at the center of our life, and very often it's not the thing that we should. So I was just now driving down the hill. And there was a boy. He dropped his phone, And I'm driving down the hill. And this boy drops his phone, And Baruch Hashem, I saw him with plenty of time. I was able to slow the car down enough. He was not in any danger ever. This was not one of these stories where, Like, I almost killed him. Baruch Hashem, it wasn't even close. But I was sitting in the car with Rabbi Gorman. We were both driving back from the chassana that we were at, And Rabbi Gorman says me, He goes, "That what just happened is an unbelievable moser shmos.

16:48 Because that kid literally just bent down in front of a car to pick up his phone. You should know, again, I'm exaggerating. It wasn't close, but it was a little close. You know what I mean? It wasn't close. It was just a little too close. It's just a phone. It's not worth dying for. But we all, in our own ways, put things at the center of our life. How many fathers start off? Again, we all start off well intentioned. We have to support our families. We need to make a parnasa. And then, what happens slowly over time? You start to forget why you were making the parnasa to begin with. It started off, I want to make a parnasa for my family. What's the icker? The icker is the family. The parnasa is the tafel. But then, at some point, it's possible that a person could slip and put parnasa at the center of our lives. It's a type for the purposes of this conversation. It's a type of avaidazara. It doesn't just because you're not bowing down to it doesn't mean you're not bowing down to it. In other words, the Avodah Zara.

17:49 I'm a little jealous. It was easy to identify if you were worshiping Baal Peor. It's not so easy to identify today the Avodah Zara is in our life. It's not so obvious to realize I might be bowing down to something. It doesn't look like that, but I might be bowing down to something that should not be at the center of my life. Maybe it shouldn't be in my life at all, or maybe it should play a role in my life. But it should be guided. It should be driven by something higher. It should be self-led. There should be something that is a higher calling. What does the Torah tell us to do? Was lashon haPasuk "Abay Ta'abdon"? And Rashi says, "Ova the Acharekach Ta'abdon Sarch Lesharish Achareha." Rashi says, "You have to kill it from its very root." And here's the reason why: If we don't take out our avayd the zara's at the root, It's whack-a-mole. We discussed this in Shir the other night. Just because you start white knuckling it in one area of your life, and now Baruch Hashem I've conquered that tayva.

18:51 Which really means you haven't conquered it. It just happens to be wise. Like for a minute I've been able to stop. So you stopped it over here, and now what happens? It comes up over there. How many times have we promised ourselves, okay, I'm gonna grayscale my phone, I'm deleting. How many times have we deleted our apps? And it lasts for how long? A few weeks. We have a big, we have a strong will-powered person. A couple weeks. Maybe two days. Depending on the person. Why? Because we haven't uprooted the root. And you know why we haven't uprooted the root? Because we might not understand the root. It's not obvious to understand why we do the things that we do. And if you actually do the work, the work is not pasha at all. The work is to be able to say, I actually pay attention to the basement of my life. I know my shadows. I'm aware of why I'm behaving the way I'm behaving and what these coping mechanisms are doing for me.

19:56 So I'm not just saying, again, not chassidum. I'm not saying you shouldn't do it, dear. You should do it for sure. You should do it. A person should be very careful to be. Like Chazal say, a person has to have guardrails around them in their life for sure. But the work is more profound than just putting a guardrail on. That might be a first stop, a necessary stop. But the shayrit, I got to understand what's driving me to this behavior. Why am I behaving the way I'm behaving? And then once I understand why I'm behaving It's a process. It's not an easy thing to actually do the work to say this shayrit, this old coping mechanism that I had when I was twelve, thirteen, fourteen years old. It was serving me once upon a time, but it's no longer servicing me in the same way. So a person has to actually do the work to recognize. Number one, I have a center of my life, and it's not a kadosh baruch hu. There's an avodah zara there, but more than that, that avodah zara has a shayrish. My responsibility is to be eikar the shayrish. However, when I'm eikar the shayrish

20:57 There is also a danger. The danger is, and this is, make sure I didn't skip it here. I did skip it. The danger is lo sasun kein la Hashem lo kechem. When you start to uproot, there is such a thing, and you have to be very careful about this. There's such a thing as people that go, okay, I'm throwing away everything. I'm throwing away the idols of my life. I'm also throwing away the truth of my life. You see this sometimes that people get into a very growth oriented mode. And sometimes lo alenu from that place they're like, Everything is now on the table. My marriage is on the table. My parenting is on the table. It's like slow down. Growth requires precision. It's a surgery. Yisrael Salanter spoke about mussar as like a surgery. A person has to be careful when they give mussar to somebody because the patient has to be healthy enough to receive it. But also the surgeon has to know. And you guys are the surgeons of your own life. You have to be able to identify this is good.

22:02 Don't just tear down. Don't be a guy who comes and says, 'I came to Enzias Yikolal, and now I'm throwing away everything in my life.' There are good things, and there are things that need to be pruned. You have to know what's what, and that's why there's Rashi says you have to start calling your avaydazaras that you called base galia. What does Rashi say? Anybody know? I'm sure Block knows. What does Rashi say? Base galia. You have to call it base. I'm putting you on the spot, but only because I respect you tremendously. Base karia Rashi says You have to be able to denigrate that, which is because you come, you think your avodah zara is amazing. My avodah zara is amazing, and you have to start telling what it actually is. You have to label your avodah zara. This thing is not working for me anymore. But you identify that, kill that thing. Don't kill every single thing in your life. Most importantly.

23:02 It's important not to build your identity around what you cut out of your life. A lot of people, you see them when they're in a growth-oriented mentality. It's always like, I haven't done this. You see this a lot when guys come to yeshiva. Like it becomes a thing. I haven't been to town since. I haven't spoken to this person since. That's a stage in growth. There's a stage in growth of sore merah, but that is not the destination of growth. There has to be asetov. If you just try to remove things from your life, something fundamentally is missing. It's not going to work. And Torah tells us Leshichno tigrusu uvaso shama. It's our responsibility to come to Hakadosh Baruch Hu. Rashi says, zem mishkan shilo. Every one of us has an obligation to build an identity in our lives of where we're headed, where we're going. This is my mishkan shiloh. This is my direction in life. I'm trying to build this dwelling place for the rabbanu shalom in the world.

24:15 What's the promise at the end of all of this? What's the promise? So the promise is as follows: There's two things the Torah tells us here. There's menucha and there's nachla. What's the difference between menucha and nachla? So Rashi says menucha is mishkan shilo and nachla is your shalayim erakaydish. When we begin, there is a certain temporary nature to the mishkan. There's a temporary nature to the experience of menucha that a person has in their life. I'm going to speak very plainly to you. I'm going to speak in a tsnius way. We're in a beis medrash. You all know what I'm talking about. I'll know what I'm talking about too. You ever have a streak that you go on where you stop a certain behavior for a week? How awesome do you feel in that week? It's an amazing feeling when a person can stop engaging in a behavior that's no longer working for them. There's a certain sense of serenity. There's a certain sense of manucha that they start to experience.

25:22 At this point in time, it's a little bit spotty. You know what I'm talking about? It's a little spotty. I had a streak. I did it for a week, and then I fell off the wagon. I did it for two weeks. I did it for two days. Up, down, up, down, up, down. That's the Torah of Menucha. The Torah of Menucha is not yet the feeling that I'm settled. I haven't yet built a base on Mikdash that has Kiyum. But there's a place that I visit in the world of Menucha. And you should know that's a great first stage to go to. Here's the promise. It might take a lifetime to achieve this. There's a promise that if we do this work, there's a destination, an inheritance, a Yerusha, a Nachla that every one of us is zayichetu. There's a place in the world where you can be you, with a sense of deep serenity and belonging. And I want to share with you something. At 16 years old, you might have no idea what I just said, but I want to tell you the single greatest gift that you could ever receive in the world is to have a place in the world where you belong and you could be authentically and genuinely yourself.

26:38 Aligned with your highest values. Those not moments, but those places in your life where you could be that person. For some people, they're zaychah to it in different places. Some people have it in their marriage. Some people have it in their jobs. People have different times, different places in their life where they're able to experience this. But if you've ever received in your life the gift of belonging, you know that belonging is the single greatest gift. Belonging starts with yourself. If you want to build a life where you belong deeply to yourself And as a result, you belong everywhere that you go. You have to do this work, placing Hashem at the center of your life. Being able to call out—that's an avaydazara—and it's no longer working for me. I'm not just interested in willpower. I'm interested in the shayish. I want to uproot it. I'm not just interested in a life of uprooting. I'm interested in the life of building. The promise at the end of this is there's a place called Mishkan Shilo, and then there's a place called Yerushalayim Yerakodesh. There's a sense of I have arrived at a moment where I am enough.

27:43 Because that's truly what we are. We are enough and okay. But I can actually live that out in this world. This guy requires a tremendous amount of patience. I'll finish with this. Many years ago, there was a certain yeshiva that had a dinner. The rosh yeshiva in that yeshiva is known to be someone who doesn't necessarily have a tremendous amount of social graces. He kind of just says whatever's on his mind. It's kind of like known. It's like a funny thing. He just says whatever's on his mind. They're at the yeshiva dinner. They're honoring one of these big gvirim, a guy who's donating a lot of money to the yeshiva. And this gvir was an alumni of the yeshiva. He was a bulgar of the yeshiva. And there's no nice way to say this. He wasn't a guy who learned a lot. He was a guy who gave a lot of tzedakah. But he wasn't so serious about his davening. He wasn't so serious about his learning. But he decided for this dinner that he didn't want to just be honored for giving a check. He actually wanted to make a siyum at the dinner.

28:52 And so he hired a chavrusa to learn with him, and he made a siyum at the dinner. How nice is that? And instead of just having like dancing because the guy gave you know whatever it was half a million dollars they actually he got up and he made a siyum and he spoke about how much the yeshiva had given to him as a kid and now he finally made his first siyum. And then the Rashi yeshiva got up to speak afterwards. And the Rosh Yeshiva said, And again, it's not a Rosh Yeshiva who has tremendous social graces. He looks at the entire crowd, The entire you know chevras there, And he goes, "You should know, we had no nachas from you for many years."

29:25 For many years, all you did was write checks. But we thought you were basically a failure in the yeshiva in terms of your actual commitment to tamatara. You were a complete failure. But we had unbelievable patience. And look, it paid off. And everybody was a combination of either the alumni of the yeshiva were laughing their heads off because it was like classic that rasha shiva who just says whatever he doesn't really have a filter, he just says whatever comes into his head and most people who weren't really part of the yeshiva were sitting there going this is the craziest dinner I've ever been to in my entire life where I'm watching the honoree who's giving a million dollars get roasted by the very rasha shiva for making a siyum. You know, it was like the most people didn't know what to do with it but when the story became public. I realized I was a very young mechanech when that story became public, and I realized that Rasha Shiva inadvertently was right.

30:17 When you're young, you think growth is all like you know. I came to NCSY Cole for the summer, and then I chose to go to a higher level year in 11th grade so that I could come back to NCSY Cole. So I could choose to go to a higher level year in 12th grade. I go to certain yeshiva, and now I'm back on the hamster wheel. But you think like it's a growth that's very dramatic when you're young. Eighteen, nineteen, twenty-one years old—it's very dramatic. In Mevasseret, the Rosh Yeshiva compares it to a flight that's taking off. The beginning is very dramatic. The climb to thirty thousand feet happens in a very short amount of time and then the plane levels off. Nothing exciting is happening. There's no rocking movement. You can take the fasten seatbelt sign off. You kind of think to yourself, you're not really moving. But you should know that's actually when the real growth occurs. The real journey is not when you're taking off. The real journey is actually when you level out, and then you spend your life oriented towards building this one precious life that you've been given.

31:20 And it happens almost without paying attention. Here you are, and now it's twenty years later, thirty years later, forty years later, and you get to see it worked. When I was in seventh grade, my rabbi was Rabbi Mordechai Finkel, and Shlita, who Rabbi Hona gezochet to have a relationship with. Rabbi Mordechai Finkelman was—he is currently the Meshgiach in Aruchayim in Queens, and we were lucky enough to have him in seventh grade. We knew already in seventh grade that we were in the presence of a tzaddik. One of the shmuzin—you can imagine how powerful the shmuz was. I remembered all these years later. One of the shmuzin that Rabbi Finkelman gave us is he said, "Boys, Your parents aren't lying to you. Your rebbeim aren't lying to you. This is an amazing life." He goes. We would never want to sell something to our children that wasn't amazing. And I remember being in seventh grade. I remember thinking to myself, I know Rabbi Finkelman would never lie to me. He really must believe that this is an amazing life. He really must believe that, because otherwise, why would he spend his life teaching it to me?

32:22 And I really had such trust in Rabbi Finkelman. I want you to know, the seed was planted very deep on that day. The seed was planted very deep. I was not loyal to that seed for a couple years in high school. But when it came time to come to Eretz Yisrael, I was like, "Rabbi Finkelman told me, 'Trust my rebbeim. This is an amazing life.'" And I saw, I looked around, and I said, "It's not necessarily what I thought was an amazing life when I was in high school, but I take a seat. It's an amazing life." Rabbi Razn I don't know if you remember this. Do you remember we went when I came to you for Shabbos when you were learning in Mir? Do you remember we went on Friday night? You remember that Friday night? That was a crazy Friday night.

33:10 But it was a crazy Friday night. I'm wondering if we remember the story the same way. Over time, that story probably means something different in my head. The other guest that showed up. So I do remember it correctly. We went to a random guy's Friday night. How we got there is a story by him for itself. There was a guy who showed up, knocked on the door. And before we knew it, he was sitting next to us at the meal. He had knocked on the wrong door, and our host was such a balchased that he literally came and joined us for the sule. The guy wouldn't let him go. It was an amazing thing. And it was in this. It was not like Again, I grew up in Lawrence, New York. Baruch Hashem, my parents had a big house. I didn't like growing up thinking that tiny little. Barely an apartment that we went to. I don't know what was on the walls. Certainly I don't know what was in the food. Nastiest food I've ever had in my entire life. Like barely edible. I was excited for Meir food after that. I was like, I can't say I'm coming for the Meir. Meir was good food. I was like, But you know, I have to tell you something. I did see that Shabbos.

34:13 Those people had a very good life. I saw that they had good kids. I saw that they had Shalom Bayis. I saw something very special on Shabbos. It's an interesting thing. Look around, Rabo Sigh. Look around. This life that you've been given, this community that you've been born to—you guys were born on top of the mountain—and halavai that we should have the trust in our rebbeim to be able to say yes. There's a nachla here. There's something that's mine. There's a life that I could build that's worthwhile. But it takes effort to make the conscious choice to become aware of. Am I living the awesome life that was set out before me? Rabbi, have an amazing, beautiful, incredible Shabbos.