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Okay. It's a fascinating rashi in this week's parsha. The pasuk tells us, "Ubetzalol ben Uri ben Chor lematayu Yehuda asa etz kol ha'cher tziva Hashem as Moshe." Betzalol, the son of Uri, the son of Chor of Shevet Yehuda Did all that Hashem commanded Moshe. Rashi says, "Fascinating Rashi." It doesn't say that Btzalil did everything that Btzalil was commanded. Btzalil did everything that Moshe was commanded, right? Doesn't say that Btzalil built the Mishkan as he was commanded. Betzalel built the Mishkan like Moshe Rabenu was commanded. Afilu dvorim shelo amar lo rabo. There are things that Moshe Rabenu, the teacher of Betzalel There are things that Moshe Rabenu did not tell Betzalel to do. E'skima daitol ma'ashenem lemosh b'sina. But Betzalel's mind—it's a fascinating lashon of Rashi. Betzalel's mind was calibrated. With what Hakadosh Baruch Hu told Moshe Rabbeinu at har sinai
Btzalel did not what he was commanded; he did what Moshe Rabbeinu was commanded. But Moshe Rabbeinu did not tell Btzalel everything that Hakadosh Baruch Hu had told him. But somehow, Btzalel was so in sync with Hashem that he did like Hashem commanded Moshe. What's the example of this? Probably you've heard this before. It's from a Gemara. When Moshe Rabbeinu told Btzalel to build the Mishkan, first he told him to build the Kalim of the Mishkan, and then afterwards to build the Mishkan itself. Listen what Btzalel said. Amar Btzalel. Btzalel said to Moshe Rabbeinu Mined ha'olam. Laso's chilabayas The minute of the world, the tradition of the world is first to build a house Ve'acharkach meisim kalim betocho, and afterwards you put the kalim inside it. Amar lo, Moshe Rabbeinu said back to Betzalel, kach shamati mipiak Kadosh Baruch Hu That's exactly what God said to me And then He said.
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Amr lo Moshe Betzal Kal Aysa. You are literally in God's shadow. Ki bevadaik hahtzi v'liyach Kadosh Baruch Hu, because that's indeed what Hashem told me to do. V'chein asa, and that's exactly what they did. Hamishkan tchila v'achak hashasa kalim. So first Betzal made the mishkan, and then afterwards he made the kalim. So many wonderful and beautiful questions we have on this Rashi. Let's start. Moshe Rabbeinu doesn't communicate. To Btzalel, what our Kadosh Baruch Hu wants him to do doesn't that sound strange? Moshe Rabenu gets a seva from our Kadosh Baruch Hu. Build a Mishkan. Moshe Rabenu says, "Zal, you're going to build a Mishkan" But I'm going to leave out key details. Why would he do that? That doesn't seem to make any sense. That's question number one. Question number two: What does Btzalel mean when he says "mina gaola"? What a funny way of speaking to Moshe Rabenu. The way of the world is not to build the house first.
What would you have said if you were talking to Moshe Rabenu? Probably something like this. I see we have a mom here in the audience. Where are you from? Miami. Where in Miami? Surfside, Miami. I know where that is. I knew where that was before. I know where it is still. And do you have a home? Yes. Well Homelessness is a real problem in America. Baruch Hashem, you have a wonderful. In that home, do you have a living room, a dining room, perhaps some bedrooms? Yes. When did you purchase this home? About six years ago. About six years ago, and before that, where did you live? Chicago. So you are literally a mile and a codish. You went from freezing Chicago to sunny Miami. Was it the cold of Chicago that chased you out? You can be honest here. It's a safe space. Everyone's in therapy, so it's okay.
It was definitely the cold in Chicago. It was definitely the cold in Chicago. So when you bought your home Is your husband from Florida? He's from New York. Oh wow, so real. You guys just baruch Hashem. And are you from? I'm from Chicago. And you ended up in Florida with the rest of the colleagues. So center for the Jewish future, Israel, Florida. Start to know. When you bought your home, your name is Ronit Mordechai. Nice to meet you. Ronit, what is your last name? Blisko. I'm just gonna go throw it. You bought your home. Did you first purchase the home or did you first purchase your furnishings? First, the home. Because it would have been strange had you walked into a mattress store to buy beds and you would have said, "I'd like a bed." I imagine that the salesman would have said, 'What dimensions?' And you would have said something like I don't know because I don't know what sizes the bedrooms are.
That would have been weird. Imagine purchasing a dining room table. What size? It's hard to know because I don't have the house yet where it will go, and I don't know what it will be able to fit into. How about your couches? You have nice couches. We do. You do. You have like two different two-seater, three-seater. You have one sectional. And when you chose to buy your sectional couch, do you want to tell us where you got it from? When you chose to buy the sectional, I forgot that's what it's called. I'm losing my English. When you chose to buy that, did you choose to buy that because it was appropriate for that room? Yes. Because if you had bought a sectional, it would have been a room that wouldn't have naturally contained the feng shui motif. I'm sure your house has a flow. Did you girls know this? That homes have flow. I didn't know this. You can speak. It doesn't fit with the flow of the home. I live in Israel. Whatever fits in the house.
So it makes sense first to build a house and then to buy the furniture. So if I'm Betsale, what would I have said? I would have said "Nice, like it's such a kavod dekuei speaking, Rebbe." It seems that the way of the world is to do the thing that makes sense, and the thing that you said makes no sense. What is betsale saying? Min hagha ola. What's that, Lushan? The way of the world. That's a strange way of saying it. Another question. So Betsalel somehow lives in accordance with Hashem And he says Moshe Rabbeinu, you got it wrong. The way of the world is first to build the furnishings, first to build the house, then to build the furnishings. What would you have expected? I would have expected Moshe Rabbeinu to say no. I have some reason, some mystical, Kabbalistic reason that indeed the furnishings should come before the house. What does Moshe Rabenu do? He goes, genius!
You are living in the shadow of God. It's incredible. What you're doing is incredible. That is what God told me. What's the obvious question? Why didn't you say that? If Akalush Baruch who told Moshe Rabenu first build the house, then build the furnishings, why does Moshe Rabenu switch the order? And what's the genius of Betsalel that he figured that out? That seems very rational, very obvious. Those are our questions for the seat. Should we repeat the questions just to make sure we all have them? We should repeat the questions to make sure we all have them for two reasons. Number one, there were people that were paying attention that didn't get all the questions. Number two, there were people that weren't paying attention, and now they have an opportunity to get all the questions. Number three, there are people that are not paying attention right now, and this might be a way of getting them to pay attention. Question number one.
I forgot question number one. Question number one was Betsalel does not get all the information from Oshabenu. Why not? Question number two: Why does Betzalel have to say 'minhag ha'olam,' Rabbi? It's the way of the world for the furnishings to come after the house. And number three: What's the genius of Betzalel? Moshe Rabbeinu says, "Yes, that is indeed what Hakadosh Baruch Hu told me." Then why didn't Moshe Rabbeinu do it? And he says, "V'chein asa." That's what they did. So I was thinking about this Rashi. And I came up with an approach. I'd like to share it with you. Let's talk about marriage for a moment. It's not a shiur on marriage, but it's a shiur on marriage because every shiur is a shiur on marriage because everything about our relationship with our kaddish baruch who is really parallel to marriage. There's a rule in marriage, a very simple rule.
The rule is intimacy. It means exclusivity. It's a simple rule. You're going to stand under a chuppah with your husband. You're going to put. I love the seminary moments. That was an epic seminary moment. I heard something about being under a chuppah. I had a Pavlovian amen response. There is no bechira chafshes. You're just programmed. Amen. Yes. Ready. Poor Shephat down from Shemayin onto this unwed kala. Already has the status of a kala in her mind. The joke is when you get married. The intimacy means exclusively you are going to stand under a chuppah. You are going to stick out your right or left index finger, depending on if you are a righty or a lefty. A man is going to take a ring. It's going to be worth a shavu'puta. Witnesses are going to see. He's going to proclaim. Hare at mikudeshes li But abazo kidas Moshe v'Yisro. He's going to put the ring on your finger. What does the word mikudeshes mean?
Exclusive Separate from everybody else. What is that? Is that a marriage? That does not sound like a marriage. Imagine if somebody said, "What do you mean? I'm married to you." I'm not living with anybody else. That's a great start, but I'm not sure that's a marriage. What does marriage mean? Does it mean intimacy means exclusivity, or are those the boundaries within which the relationship occurs? Let's be more specific. Let's say Let's say the following is true. Let's say that a special. Everyone's read the five languages of love. Probably read it from the time you were thirteen years old. Five languages of love, a great book. Read it before you get married. It says that everybody has a different love language. So let's say you knew that your husband's love language is food. I'm not saying anything personal about myself. Just happens to be right. So let's say your husband's love language is brownies.
Again, nothing specific. I'm just saying. Brownies with marshmallow fluff and peanut butter layered with Oreos. And you go ahead and make that for your husband. That sounds a lot like marriage. In other words, you took your time. And you said, "Here's something that I know my husband likes. A gift that I can give to him." And so you took your time. You went shopping. You bought all the ingredients. You spent time in the kitchen. Your husband comes in Friday night. You come out with this amazing dessert. What does he say? Wow, this woman loves me. It's incredible. Which one of these two things is marriage? Intimacy means exclusivity. Or brownies. Which one of those two things is marriage? Both. None. So obviously, they're both critical. So a way of saying it is as follows. This is an interesting way of saying it. There's the house.
And then there's the furnishings of the house. You can't say that because you made brownies for somebody, you are married to them. Otherwise Otherwise there might be some real halachic issues in the room, right? I shouldn't say this, but I'll say this. Last year, it was a terrible, terrible tragedy. Mayrone happened. It was terrible. It was terrible. It was terrible. The girls weren't here. And in the yeshiva, we had boys that were in the pileup. And it was terrible. And Baruch Hashem, for the wonderful Benos Yisrael that we have That sent dozens of care packages to my yeshiva. The office was filled with cookies, cupcakes, and brownies. And all for our boys to let them know that we are together in crisis. And in the yeshiva, where unfortunately the tragedy struck hardest, they literally had to send out a letter to the seminaries. Please tell your wonderful girls that they really want to comfort our boys in this terrible time of crisis.
Maybe no more baked goods. These girls were sending so much beautiful, benicy soul. Who wants to comfort fellow Jews that happen to be of the male persuasion? We would have quite a problem if brownies was marriage. Because I know a lot of boys that were like, 'This is awesome.' Guys were like that. We can't get guys to come to the office to hand in stuff. But that week, everybody was in the office all the time. It was an amazing thing. Just because you make somebody brownies doesn't mean you're in a relationship with them. And also, just because you're exclusive with somebody doesn't mean you're in a relationship with them. There are plenty of people that live in the same house that have nothing to do with each other. It's a terrible tragedy. There are husbands and wives who are exclusive. It's not like they're marrying anybody else. It's not like they're going anywhere else.
But what's the yachas between them? There's a terrible story. But it's worth telling. It's a true story, even if this particular iteration of the story is not true. But every rav has experienced this. Rav Weinberger tells the story of Moshe Weinberger of the Yesh Kodesh Shlitah. Rav Weinberger tells the story that there was a couple that came to him And they were having marital issues And they wanted to speak to the rebbe. They wanted to get some etza, so they sat down. Husband and wife And Rav Weinberger says, "who wants to go first?" So the wife says, 'The husband says, "I'll go first."' So the husband says, "Honestly" I don't know what she wants from me. I go to Minyan three times a day. I learn Torah every day. I make a parnasa for our family. I keep Shabbos. I keep kosher. I give tzedakah. I don't know what I am doing wrong. And the wife, she's sitting there like this the entire time that the husband is speaking. She's like this.
And the husband goes, you see, Rabbi. Even now Even now Come on, even now, nothing is ever enough for her. Nothing I do is ever enough. Do you know what it's like, girls, to have to wake up for shachris, mincha, maariv, and have a job, and learn Torah every day, and do homework with your kids? In my mind, a guy who wakes up for a six thirty dafyomi goes to a seven fifteen shacharis, comes home, helps the kids get off, gets on a train, goes to the city, goes to work. In the middle of his day, he gets one break. He uses that break to go chapa minchaminyan, even though he could probably just eat at his desk and have a little bit more of a chill. He comes home at night, daven smirev, learns in between minchamirev, comes home, does homework with his kids. It's unbelievable. He's a hero. No, he goes to sleep at eleven o'clock at night because he's waking up pashut at five o'clock the next morning. It's crazy what some of these men do without a break. It's unbelievable.
And the entire time, his wife is in there going, "Not enough! It's not enough!" And he's getting more and more frustrated. And if Weinberger turns to the wife and he says What's going on? Seems like a great guy. She says, "Debbie, do you think I married him to take out the garbage?" Do you think I married him to cut toilet paper before Shabbos? Do you think I married him to set the Shabbos clocks or to bring home a parnasa? I married him because of the way that he used to look at me, and when's the last time he looked at me that way? And both of those couples are right. Both people in that couple are right. The husband is saying, "I do all these things. I built this house for you. We live in this house together, and I'm supporting this house. I'm with you." What's the wife saying?
She said, "you built the structure" But where's the furnishings? Where's the yachas? Where's the relationship between us? When's the last time you went out and got me the special type of flowers that I like before Shabbos? When you're young and newly married and your wife is pregnant and she says, "Hey, can you get me pickles and ice cream in the middle of the night?" It's like everything that I thought I was going to do as a bachelor and I promised myself when I was listening to that musserva that if my wife asks, I'm going to run. It doesn't matter. Seasons Express. I'm going to find a place that has exactly the type of ice cream, of course, Cholv Israel, exactly the type of ice cream that she likes. Maybe not Cholv Israel if you're out of town. Doesn't matter what it is, right? And then it's like you're ten, fifteen years into the marriage. Now all of a sudden it becomes no, I don't want to be codependent.
I don't like that we come up with these amazing psychological reasons not to help each other. Your issue belongs to you. You could just do a nice thing for your spouse. What happened to the yachas? What happened to the connection? This was the machlokas between Moshe Abeno and Betsalal. Moshe Abeno was a furnishings man. He said yes, there has to be a house. But first, there has to be what's the connection between us? What does it mean to love you? What does it mean to be in a relationship with you? In dating, you don't say, 'So will we be exclusive?' That's the assumption. Of course, you're going to be exclusive. The question is, can we build a life together? So in your dating, you're asking all these questions about what are your values and what are your life's ambitions and how would you see yourself raising children and what's your parenting style? Even though of course you have no idea what it means with your parenting style. You haven't met the kids yet.
I've got it all figured out. I'm 19, of course I know the answers to everything. We know, but it's a little hard for them to hear. Because of course they do. They were trying. You're working on it. It's amazing. You're expanding your mind to think about different ideas. Then you're gonna meet your children. You're gonna go. Sorry, the things in my head that I'm not saying are amazing. But it's even more than that. It's like, can we hang out together? I had this once. Guy sat to me. He goes, 'Rebby, we have everything is the same.' "Like everything is the same." I said, "What's the problem?" He said, "I just don't like her. I don't think you should marry her." But it all lines up so perfectly.
I'm like, who cares? What? She's not a piece of paper, right? It doesn't. Who cares if it lines up? You'll meet somebody else who wants to send their kids to that school. But you have to like being with the person, right? Because if you like being with the person, that's the relationship. That's where the relationship is, right? So Moshe Rabbeinu said, if we're building a home for Hashem, what should we be focusing on? Focus on what we're building. Our not the outside of the house, but what are you filling up our house with? He asked a girl, "What are you looking for?" She says, "I want a husband who's besimcha." I want to have a Shabbos table where people are laughing and they're joyous and they're happy to be there. That's what I want. I've never heard. I guess you could find these people, but I've never heard somebody say Four bedroom, three bathroom, den, basement
In this neighborhood. That's not what you're looking for. You're not looking for the external. You're looking for the internal. So when Hakadosh Baruch Hu said to Moshe Rabbeinu, "V'asli mitzvah shachamti besocham," build for me a dwelling place, and he said, "Of course, Hashem said, build the outside first, and then the kelim afterwards." But Moshe Rabbeinu, he said, "No, we need a personal relationship with Hashem. Like, what does it mean to be your spouse? What does it mean to be in a relationship with you?" So when he came to Betzalel, he said, "Here's the furnishings" And he left out the order And that makes sense. And then Betzalel said something brilliant. Betzalel said, but Rebbe Minhaga olam is not that way. What do those words mean, minhaga olam? Lots of people get excited about the insides of the relationship, so much so that they don't pay attention to the outsides of a relationship, and the outsides of a relationship are really important. I'll give you an example of what this looks like.
I don't know if you have encountered these people, but when you do, I want you to know they're very spiritual and amazing people. But they'll say something like this: "Me and God, we're good." We're good. We have a deep connection. I don't keep Shabbos or kosher or daven or put on tefillin, but I want you to know I feel deeply connected to it. And sometimes I want to say to those people, I'm so glad that you feel deeply connected. But what in the world does that mean? Imagine if I came to my wife and I said "I feel so deeply connected to you. I happen to have a family in Canada that I'm not telling anybody about" And I do like to go on business trips, but I'm really actually there with my second family. I want you to know that me and you, I just feel so close to you. I know that you're interested in me spending time with you, but I'd rather hang out with my boys. I just want you to know my feeling.
It's always gonna be you, right? What would a healthy individual say there? And say, I'm glad that you feel connected. I don't feel as connected as you feel. There's that story. A guy came to Eishat Torah many years ago when Rvnaich was alive in Rosh Chivash Lita. The guy came and he said, "Me and God are tight." Rvnaich said, "How do you know?" He said, "I was driving my motorcycle. I was going around on a mountain. I was by a cliff. I got thrown off the cliff because a truck was coming." I went off my motorcycle. I was literally going to die. There was a branch there. I managed to hold on to the branch. I saved my life. Me and God are tight. Rav Na'ach said, "I hear you, but who sent the truck?" But your reaction, epic. Everybody else, "Ooh, you're like, whoa."
It's easy to get caught up in what we personally feel. But when we lose sight, and this is what he said, minhug ha olam The way of the world Is that everyone's going to get passionate about what they're excited about But the way of the world is you have to build structures first. The internal aspects of the relationship can only come afterwards. Here's another way of saying it. I like this way of saying it. You have people that date forever. You know why? Because they're not interested in marriage. They're interested in being in a relationship. But they're not interested in sealing it. They're not interested in commitment. And you have these girls that get so frustrated. They go, "I don't know. We've been dating forever. It's been like five years. When's he going to ask already?" Is he interested in marriage? I had a friend like this. Great guy.
Wasn't the frumest guy. He was a great guy. And he dated this girl forever. And people used to bother him. They used to chaperone. They said, "New. When are you going to seal the deal already?" And he said, yeah, one day. He was chilling. He wasn't shomer negiyah. So my father said to him in front of me one time. Is again very, very close with my family. My father said Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? "And what he was saying was like, 'Do you really want to be in a relationship with this person? Are you really willing to commit? You're getting everything you want out of the relationship, so why should you give any more?' It's a harsh line. Shortly afterwards, he got engaged. Because at some point you have to ask yourself. If you date someone who's not interested in marriage, you could build the most amazing relationship. But are you really with each other? The mina ga olam is first. We need to know: does the outside work, and then we could fill it up with the inside stuff. Lots of people are very spiritual. I don't pray, but I talk to God in my own way. That's really nice. That's amazing. But we have a mitzvah to put on tefillin if you're a man. And there's no way around that.
And we have a mitzvah to keep Shabbos. We have all these incredible mitzvot. They define the boundaries, the parameters of the relationship. So Moshe Rabenu said exactly. It's exactly right. So then, why didn't Moshe Rabenu say it to begin with? If Betsalel was of course you have to know first. Are we in the world of marriage together? If we are, great. We have to go our separate directions. So we build the home. Now we can fill it up with all our personal avodah. We can make it real. So then, why didn't Moshe Rabenu say it? So I think Spend the last couple of minutes on this. I think Moshe Rabbeinu was talking to our generation. I think he was talking to every generation, but I think he was specifically talking to our generation. There is a danger. It's a big danger. It's not a small danger.
It's a danger that everybody in this room, including myself, suffers from. It's easy to lose sight of our personal relationship with Hashem. It's easy to show up and check boxes, and it's important to show up and check boxes. If we're being perfectly honest, showing up to a relationship often means checking the box, and there's nothing wrong with that. But imagine it was your husband who was checking boxes. How would you feel? Imagine he shows up and he has that perfunctory conversation with you, and he sits down at the dinner table and he's like, "How's your day? How's your day?" And the only thing you talk about is the kids. Where's the where where's the Where's the yachas? You see, Moshe Rabbeinu, he knew just like Btzalad did. He knew that of course you have to build the outside before you build the inside. That was obvious. It was pashat.
But Moshe Rabbeinu needed to introduce an idea. Specifically, I believe, throughout every generation, but specifically for us We are the generation that doesn't want to have our Judaism by rote. It's why people are. I get this question all the time, Rabbi. I'm with you. Davening is important. But really, three times a day, same thing every day for the rest of my life. It's annoying. It's hard. Where's my own creativity? Where's my own passion? What am I contributing to this relationship? And they're right to ask that question. A guy learns a piece of Gemara. It says Abayah says this, and Rava says this. Rashi said this, and Tosuf said this. It's very nice. I memorized it. But where's my own creativity? What's my own contribution? You're right to ask that question. A girl shows up to a she'er. She takes notes. At the end of the day, she has to be able to ask herself again correctly. What I gain from this? Every single story in Tanakh is designed for us to build a relationship with Hashem.
And so many of us, rightfully, are frustrated because we're being told to do this, and we're not being told what it means. And if we don't know that, ultimately, that may not be what comes first, but it is what's primary. Then our Yiddishkeit is going to be sorely lacking, and that's a problem. It's not a small problem. It's a big problem. And today, more than ever, the kids have the courage to say, "If you're not going to answer that question, I'm not going to be a part of this. I'll go off the darch. I don't need this." Show me what davening really is. If you show them what davening is, they go, 'That makes sense. Thank you so much. I was looking for an answer.' And you think they're not looking for answers. You think they're not, but they are. And they're very, very authentic about it, and it's amazing. I was talking to a kid. I was doing interviews in America a couple weeks ago.
And I was talking to this kid, and he was very honest with me. He was an amazing kid. I said, "Tell me about your journey through high school." He said, "Honestly, ninth and tenth grade, I wasn't keeping Shabbos, I wasn't keeping kosher, I wasn't davening, I wasn't learning, I wasn't interested. In eleventh grade, I came to a different school for a year. I completely ignored everything that they had to say. I didn't listen to a word." He said, "This past summer, something just clicked. I was like, 'What am I doing?'" He sobered up. He stopped partying. He started listening to zrebeim and he asked them questions. 'Tell me what davening really means?' He says to me proudly. He goes, 'I haven't missed a day of tefillin in six months.' He says, "Keeping Shabbos every single week. Love it now. I love Shabbos." He goes, "Kosher. I have the opportunity to break kosher all the time. I keep kosher 100 percent.
He said, "I said, what was the difference?" He said, "First of all, I had a rabbi who cared; that was a huge difference. And second of all, wasn't the standard curriculum. They weren't just interested in teaching me the same black Torah over and over again. They were teaching me what Yiddishkeit actually feels like. And it turns out, Yiddishkeit is awesome. That's what he said to me. This guy is going to be a rock star. He's going to be a rock star. I have no doubt about it. He's going to come to Yeshiva Ner Tzedek next year. This kid's he's already there. He's unbelievable. But he was waiting. He was waiting, and why aren't we doing more to answer what Moshe Rabbeinu said? Tell them about the furnishings. Nobody wants to hear it's a three bedroom, two bathroom. They want to walk into a house. They want to see. I could see that sofa being there. I could see myself having a purim mesiba in this dining room. I want to buy this type of dining room table because it's longer and it'll fit more guests. This is where I want my archim to stay, and I want them to have a private bathroom so they'll be comfortable. They start to imagine when you walk through a house. You don't picture the walls. You picture what you're going to put on the walls.
You picture who's going to live there and what type of times you're going to have. That's what's exciting. So of course, B'tzalel, you're right. Exactly. You live B'tzelkel. You know exactly as God knew. First, you have to create the structure. Then you could fill up the furnishings. But the furnishings make the house. Imagine if you showed up to Torah Devarah And the walls were bare. They put a tremendous amount of work into this place. You weren't here last year. It didn't look like this. It didn't look like this. We didn't even have some of these rooms. But it wasn't just a question of the rooms. It's what you fill it up with. And the same thing for us. I'm sure at this point in the year, Baruch Hashem, you girls are all amazing. Every one of you, I have no doubt. I'm sure you're checking boxes left and right, and maybe you're checking more boxes than you ever checked before. But my question for you is, and we'll leave this for the evening. Question to take with you: What are the furnishings? What's your own creativity that you are bringing to this relationship? Are you davening or are you talking to Hashem? Are you learning or are you thinking about how I can use this to enhance my relationship with Hashem? Baruch Hu. Have a good Shabbos.
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